Psychotherapists and Counsellors Answer your Questions

There is no time allocated to this process; some analysands feel better after the first session when they can just talk. Keeping on talking is a journey that produces many affects; each affect needs...

There is no time allocated to this process; some analysands feel better after the first session when they can just talk. Keeping on talking is a journey that produces many affects; each affect needs to be explored. Sometimes when the analysand feels 'worse' it means that their unconscious is producing the correct expressions for them, and this needs to be worked on in the clinic with me. But towards the end of an analysis, what constitutes 'progress' is a different position to jouissance.

We agree what you would like to change and review the work together. Progress may involve changes in distress, daily life, relationships or your ability to approach difficult memories. The pace...

We agree what you would like to change and review the work together. Progress may involve changes in distress, daily life, relationships or your ability to approach difficult memories. The pace varies, and noticing a change does not mean all concerns are resolved. If the work is not helping or the approach does not suit you, we discuss what needs to change, including whether another practitioner or service would be more suitable.

I wish this could be answered in a generalisable way but the fact is psychotherapy is not linear, some people feel better after the first session, where many feel more vulnerable at first. Depending...

I wish this could be answered in a generalisable way but the fact is psychotherapy is not linear, some people feel better after the first session, where many feel more vulnerable at first. Depending on the transference, the person's history, how realistic are their expectations, and their commitment, deep progress can take quite some time...that said feeling better isn't tantamount to getting better and just talking can sometimes provide relief quickly. But for deeper changes to be realised it may take months or years.

When the client shows up for themselves and starts doing the work.

When the client shows up for themselves and starts doing the work.

It's difficult to put a timeframe on progress because everyone comes to counselling with different experiences and needs. Some people notice changes quite early, while others need more time. We'll...

It's difficult to put a timeframe on progress because everyone comes to counselling with different experiences and needs. Some people notice changes quite early, while others need more time. We'll check in regularly about how things are going, what's been helpful and whether counselling is meeting your needs. We can adjust how we work together as we go.

From the first session, you and I will use 'tracking' to identify and start mapping your progress. This is an important and intergral part of therapy as you as a client need to know if you are...

From the first session, you and I will use 'tracking' to identify and start mapping your progress. This is an important and intergral part of therapy as you as a client need to know if you are benefiting from counselling, and if the work we are doing together is showing progress in the way you wanted. However, it is my role as a counsellor to facilitate this process while sitting by your side providing the safe trusting space you need to spread your wings and fly.

This will look different for each person. For some, progress may be a growing sense of self-awareness or self-acceptance. For others, it may be the ability to stay with difficult emotions rather...

This will look different for each person. For some, progress may be a growing sense of self-awareness or self-acceptance. For others, it may be the ability to stay with difficult emotions rather than avoid them, and begin to understand them more deeply. Often, a key sign of progress is when clients begin to relate to themselves in a new way — with more curiosity, clarity, or compassion.

Progress looks different for everyone. Some clients may feel an initial sense of relief from being heard and having space to talk openly. For others, trust and understanding develop gradually before...

Progress looks different for everyone. Some clients may feel an initial sense of relief from being heard and having space to talk openly. For others, trust and understanding develop gradually before changes become noticeable. Early signs of progress might include recognising a familiar pattern, responding to yourself with more compassion, managing a difficult moment differently or having a more constructive conversation with your partner. These small shifts can be meaningful, even while challenges remain. I regularly check in with clients about what is helping and whether we are moving towards their goals. There is no fixed timeline, and we can adjust our approach together as your needs become clearer. Just remember - progress is not a moment, it's a trajectory.

I find that most clients feel seen, heard and cared for in the initial consultation and so progress begins quite quickly.

I find that most clients feel seen, heard and cared for in the initial consultation and so progress begins quite quickly.

Progress looks different for everyone, and it is important to remember that meaningful, lasting change takes time. Healing is rarely a straight line, but from our very first session, we will pay close...

Progress looks different for everyone, and it is important to remember that meaningful, lasting change takes time. Healing is rarely a straight line, but from our very first session, we will pay close attention to the small victories and steady progress that take place along the way. Whether that is a slight shift in your perspective, a new coping tool that works, or simply feeling a bit lighter after a heavy week, every step forward matters. It is also worth recognizing that just reaching out and speaking to someone is already an important, courageous first step in making progress. By carving out a safe space for yourself, you have already begun the work of recovery, and we will celebrate and build upon that momentum together at a pace that feels completely secure for you.

Progress can show up in small but noticeable ways at first. This might include becoming more aware of reactions as they happen, or having a little more space before responding. It can also look...

Progress can show up in small but noticeable ways at first. This might include becoming more aware of reactions as they happen, or having a little more space before responding. It can also look like feeling more able to share openly in relationships, or beginning to seek out connection in ways that didn’t feel possible before. At times, progress doesn’t feel positive. As awareness increases, emotions can feel stronger or more immediate. While this can be uncomfortable, it is often part of working with experiences that were previously avoided. The focus is on approaching these moments carefully and at a manageable pace, so they can be processed rather than becoming overwhelming or repeating in the same way. Over time, these shifts tend to build, and responses that once felt automatic begin to change.

There isn't a set timeframe for progress, because every person comes to counselling with different experiences, circumstances and goals. For some people, simply having a safe space to say things out...

There isn't a set timeframe for progress, because every person comes to counselling with different experiences, circumstances and goals. For some people, simply having a safe space to say things out loud and feel understood can bring a sense of relief from the first few sessions. Over time, progress might look like understanding yourself a little better, recognising patterns sooner, feeling less overwhelmed by difficult emotions, responding differently to situations that once felt unmanageable, or feeling more confident in the choices you make. I don't think progress always means that the difficult feelings disappear. Sometimes it means they feel more manageable, you understand where they are coming from, and you have more confidence in your ability to cope with them. We will regularly check in about how counselling is feeling and whether we are working towards what matters to you.

Progress often begins when people feel truly seen, heard, and understood - when they realise they’re not alone in their struggles. For many people I work with, this happens early on, often during...

Progress often begins when people feel truly seen, heard, and understood - when they realise they’re not alone in their struggles. For many people I work with, this happens early on, often during our initial sessions. Building trust and creating a safe space where you can show up authentically is foundational to my practice, and many folks report feeling relief or hope simply from having someone who “gets it.” That said, progress looks different for everyone. Some people notice shifts quickly, like gaining clarity about their needs or feeling empowered to take small but meaningful steps toward change. Others may experience progress more gradually, as we unpack systemic barriers, explore identity, or develop tools to navigate burnout or distress. For neurodivergent people, progress might feel like finally finding strategies that actually work for their brain or beginning to unmask in spaces where they’ve always felt pressured to conform. For those navigating systemic challenges, it might come from successfully advocating for themselves or feeling equipped to challenge unjust structures. Ultimately, I believe progress isn’t linear - it’s about noticing moments of growth, connection, or insight along the way. Together, we’ll celebrate even the smallest wins because they often lead to bigger changes over time. My role is to walk alongside you, offering support and practical tools while honouring your unique pace and journey.

People often feel early shifts when they sense safety, presence and a space where their experience is genuinely welcomed. Sometimes this can occur in the first session, for others it's a slower more...

People often feel early shifts when they sense safety, presence and a space where their experience is genuinely welcomed. Sometimes this can occur in the first session, for others it's a slower more patient journey. Progress can look like feeling clearer, more grounded, less alone or more connected to themselves. Real change unfolds at the pace the body and psyche feel ready for.

That depends on the client. It is important throughout therapy, to acknowledge and reflect on the small thoughts or changes that are occurring. If we only focus on the long term goal, it would be easy...

That depends on the client. It is important throughout therapy, to acknowledge and reflect on the small thoughts or changes that are occurring. If we only focus on the long term goal, it would be easy to say this isn't working. Some problems shared in therapy have taken a lifetime to culminate and get to a point where someone is ready to change, so it makes sense that it will take time and patience to re-align beliefs, values, or preferred futures to make these changes. It's important to remain kind to one's self.

Clients often begin to feel progress when they enter a space where they feel fully seen, heard, and welcomed as their true selves. This kind of environment allows them to drop their guard and feel...

Clients often begin to feel progress when they enter a space where they feel fully seen, heard, and welcomed as their true selves. This kind of environment allows them to drop their guard and feel safe enough to explore vulnerable parts of themselves. When they experience genuine acceptance and empathy, it fosters a sense of trust and openness, which is essential for healing. Progress becomes evident as clients gradually feel more at ease with expressing their emotions, exploring deeper parts of their identity, and reconnecting with their own sense of worth and authenticity. It is this connection and validation that sets the foundation for lasting change.

The client will not be able to see any progress unless they invest time and thought to their own journey or process. If they invest their whole selves and genuinely want to see the change it can...

The client will not be able to see any progress unless they invest time and thought to their own journey or process. If they invest their whole selves and genuinely want to see the change it can happen right from the first session. I believe coming to counselling itself has ignited some unknown change in the client.

It varies enormously and I'm cautious about timelines because progress rarely looks linear. What I tend to see over time is a growing compassion toward themselves, less shame and self-criticism, a...

It varies enormously and I'm cautious about timelines because progress rarely looks linear. What I tend to see over time is a growing compassion toward themselves, less shame and self-criticism, a greater capacity to sit with difficult emotions rather than avoid them, and a clearer sense of who they are and what they need. I think progress often shows up in daily life before it shows up in the therapy room.

I hope the client leaves each session with a sense of progress being made. In the initial session my intention is that you leave with hope for what is to come. From then, as we work on what you want...

I hope the client leaves each session with a sense of progress being made. In the initial session my intention is that you leave with hope for what is to come. From then, as we work on what you want to achieve from counselling, we check in regularly, to notice, small and big changes that provide the reminder that change is happening. Change can be slow and when we make changes we often forget the old version of ourselves who did things differently. It's a fascinating phenomena that when we change we become that new version and can miss that a change has occurred. We often need to actively reflect on how we are responding or behaving differently.

When working with me, you will always know what you're working on and the steps to get there. Many clients report seeing progress after a few months.

When working with me, you will always know what you're working on and the steps to get there. Many clients report seeing progress after a few months.

Progress often begins with small shifts, like being able to name an emotion, respond differently in a familiar situation, or feel a little more hopeful. Some people notice this early in the process,...

Progress often begins with small shifts, like being able to name an emotion, respond differently in a familiar situation, or feel a little more hopeful. Some people notice this early in the process, while for others it takes more time as trust builds and insights deepen. I encourage you to move at a pace that feels right, knowing that therapy is not about getting it perfect but about creating meaningful change.

Psychotherapy is a deeper, longer-term process — so the experience of “progress” can look a little different to more solution-focused approaches. In the early stages (often within the first...

Psychotherapy is a deeper, longer-term process — so the experience of “progress” can look a little different to more solution-focused approaches. In the early stages (often within the first 1–10 sessions), many people begin to notice some shifts in symptom relief — feeling slightly more settled, having language for their experiences, or a greater sense of clarity around what’s been going on. From there, the work often moves into a deeper phase. This is where we begin exploring underlying patterns — including attachment dynamics, relational experiences, and aspects of developmental trauma. This kind of work takes time, and an important part of progress is the therapeutic relationship itself — building enough safety for more meaningful change to unfold. Because of this, regularity and rhythm in sessions matter. Weekly or fortnightly sessions tend to support the continuity and depth that psychotherapy invites. That said, we’ll work collaboratively to find a pace that feels right for you — taking into account your needs, goals, and what life looks like right now.

Progress often starts quietly — before someone's outward situation changes, they usually notice they understand their own reactions a little better: catching a thought or an old pattern in the...

Progress often starts quietly — before someone's outward situation changes, they usually notice they understand their own reactions a little better: catching a thought or an old pattern in the moment rather than only in hindsight. That shift, in my experience, tends to come before visible change in a relationship or symptom, not after.

There is no set point at which therapy begins to “work”, and progress does not always mean feeling better straight away. Sometimes it begins with noticing something that previously felt automatic...

There is no set point at which therapy begins to “work”, and progress does not always mean feeling better straight away. Sometimes it begins with noticing something that previously felt automatic - a familiar pattern, an emotional response or a way of relating and being able to pause rather than simply repeat it. For some people, progress may be feeling more able to express a need, tolerate difficult emotions, set a boundary or make a different choice. Over time, greater self-understanding can create more freedom and possibility in how we relate to ourselves, others and our lives.

Some clients feel a sense of relief after the first session simply because they have spoken honestly and started to organise what has been happening. Deeper change usually develops over time through...

Some clients feel a sense of relief after the first session simply because they have spoken honestly and started to organise what has been happening. Deeper change usually develops over time through reflection, emotional regulation, new decisions and repeated action. Progress may show up as clearer thinking, reduced reactivity, stronger boundaries, better communication, more self-respect, or a greater sense of direction. I encourage clients to notice small but meaningful changes along the way.

While Jungian analysis can go on for years, as it is a deep process which centres around self-understanding and not just symptoms, clients should begin to feel engaged and supported towards...

While Jungian analysis can go on for years, as it is a deep process which centres around self-understanding and not just symptoms, clients should begin to feel engaged and supported towards symptom-alleviation fairly quickly. Not every client wants or needs to go deeply into analysis, and so the early work focusses on relief and ego-strengthening, as well as self-knowledge.

While progress is gradual and different for each client signs include increased self-awareness and able to share emotions. They also talk about improvements between sessions.

While progress is gradual and different for each client signs include increased self-awareness and able to share emotions. They also talk about improvements between sessions.

I believe we should know from our first session with a therapist whether they are the right fit for us. I hope my clients will feel a sense of progress, even simply a new feeling of clarity, from the...

I believe we should know from our first session with a therapist whether they are the right fit for us. I hope my clients will feel a sense of progress, even simply a new feeling of clarity, from the first session.

Progress can mean different things. Sometimes people feel better simply from having been able to talk openly about something they have carried alone. At other times change is slower. I think it is...

Progress can mean different things. Sometimes people feel better simply from having been able to talk openly about something they have carried alone. At other times change is slower. I think it is important that therapist and client regularly ask whether the work is helping and, if not, whether something needs to change in the way we are working.

When they have an experience of a different way of feeling.

When they have an experience of a different way of feeling.

The first time they access their Self and be with a part of them in a way they have never experienced before. It is transformational.

The first time they access their Self and be with a part of them in a way they have never experienced before. It is transformational.

I like to leave my client seeing that they have made progress at every session, however big or small. The rate of progress will depend on the issue(s) the client has and where they are at within...

I like to leave my client seeing that they have made progress at every session, however big or small. The rate of progress will depend on the issue(s) the client has and where they are at within themselves. What is important is that my client is making progress and are headed in the right direction. This gives them hope and empowerment, which is very important. It is also important not to move faster than one is ready to do. That can reignite trauma and can be damaging. We all make the changes that we need when we are ready.

Progress often begins when clients feel safe enough to slow down, speak freely, and notice something shift—whether that’s a new insight, a sense of relief, or a moment of connection. While healing...

Progress often begins when clients feel safe enough to slow down, speak freely, and notice something shift—whether that’s a new insight, a sense of relief, or a moment of connection. While healing timelines vary, many people start to feel more clarity, self-trust, or emotional regulation within the first few sessions, especially when the pace and approach feel right for them.

Healing is deeply individual. Progress looks different for everyone depending on your situation, your readiness to engage, and what you are working with. We'll track what matters to you.

Healing is deeply individual. Progress looks different for everyone depending on your situation, your readiness to engage, and what you are working with. We'll track what matters to you.

Every person’s journey is different, and therapy unfolds at its own pace. Many clients begin to notice early shifts within the first few sessions, such as feeling more understood, gaining clarity,...

Every person’s journey is different, and therapy unfolds at its own pace. Many clients begin to notice early shifts within the first few sessions, such as feeling more understood, gaining clarity, or developing new perspectives and coping tools. Deeper changes often emerge gradually through ongoing exploration, practice, and the development of a stronger relationship with oneself.

Only the client will know this and it varies greatly as there are a multitude of factors that influence 'progress'.

Only the client will know this and it varies greatly as there are a multitude of factors that influence 'progress'.

Individuals would need to commit to a minimum of 6 months. It takes some time to become comfortable and to begin to trust the process.

Individuals would need to commit to a minimum of 6 months. It takes some time to become comfortable and to begin to trust the process.

Progress often starts before life looks different on the outside. It might be noticing a thought without believing it, responding differently in a difficult conversation, or treating yourself with a...

Progress often starts before life looks different on the outside. It might be noticing a thought without believing it, responding differently in a difficult conversation, or treating yourself with a little more kindness than you did last week. Those small shifts tend to build momentum. Therapy isn't about becoming a different person—it's about feeling more like yourself.

Clients often begin to sense progress when they start to feel safer, more understood, and more connected to themselves within the therapeutic space. Sometimes this happens in the very first session,...

Clients often begin to sense progress when they start to feel safer, more understood, and more connected to themselves within the therapeutic space. Sometimes this happens in the very first session, when they realise they no longer have to carry their struggles alone. For others, it comes as subtle shifts: a calmer body, a new insight, or a moment where an old trigger feels less powerful. Progress can also show up in daily life, such as responding differently to stress or feeling more compassionate toward oneself. I remind clients that healing is rarely linear; it unfolds at the pace their mind and body are ready for. My role is to support those moments of change, helping them recognise and build on the small but meaningful steps forward.

Progress looks different for different people, but it often begins earlier than many expect. For some, it starts when they feel genuinely heard and understood. For others, it begins when they gain...

Progress looks different for different people, but it often begins earlier than many expect. For some, it starts when they feel genuinely heard and understood. For others, it begins when they gain a clearer perspective on a situation, recognise a pattern they hadn't noticed before, or find themselves feeling less overwhelmed by thoughts and emotions that previously seemed tangled or confusing. Whilst meaningful change takes time, these moments of increased clarity often provide the foundation for greater confidence, better decisions, and lasting progress.

It is difficult to determine how many sessions any client may require. Counselling therapy is an individual process for each person. Some people only need a few sessions, while others may feel the...

It is difficult to determine how many sessions any client may require. Counselling therapy is an individual process for each person. Some people only need a few sessions, while others may feel the benefit of more sessions to deal with more complex or ongoing life issues. I am committed to regularly ‘checking in’ with you during therapy to ensure your needs from counselling are being met, & how you are feeling about continuing therapy. The appropriate time for ending therapy is negotiated to be when you are feeling ready, & no longer require my support. I firmly trust your decision, as I believe you are the expert in knowing you best. Besides...you can always return for ‘top up’ sessions in the future as needed, should your life circumstances change, & you feel a session or two may be beneficial for you at that time.

Within a few sessions.

Within a few sessions.

Clients often begin to feel that progress is being made when they notice that they are thinking, feeling, or responding differently to situations than they did before therapy began. These small shifts...

Clients often begin to feel that progress is being made when they notice that they are thinking, feeling, or responding differently to situations than they did before therapy began. These small shifts can provide encouragement and support continued engagement in the therapeutic process.

Progress doesn’t always happen in a straight line, and some sessions might feel more challenging or uncertain. However, as long as there’s an overall sense of movement—whether emotional,...

Progress doesn’t always happen in a straight line, and some sessions might feel more challenging or uncertain. However, as long as there’s an overall sense of movement—whether emotional, cognitive, or behavioral—clients can typically start to feel like change is happening. It’s also important for clients to be involved in the process of defining their own progress.

I think progress can be made from the outset of therapy, but sometimes it’s only looking back that you can really notice how much progress you’ve made.

I think progress can be made from the outset of therapy, but sometimes it’s only looking back that you can really notice how much progress you’ve made.

Progress varies for each client. Many people notice small but meaningful changes, like improved coping strategies or insight, within the first month of therapy, though deeper issues may take longer to...

Progress varies for each client. Many people notice small but meaningful changes, like improved coping strategies or insight, within the first month of therapy, though deeper issues may take longer to work through. I regularly check in with clients to review their goals and celebrate the progress they are making along the way.

As life becomes more meaningful and a person becomes more open and self-reliant, so my work is done. When the obstacles in our psyche move and life flows again, we will naturally experience less of a...

As life becomes more meaningful and a person becomes more open and self-reliant, so my work is done. When the obstacles in our psyche move and life flows again, we will naturally experience less of a need for counselling.

Clients often begin to feel progress when they notice a shift in their emotional experience — when something that once felt overwhelming starts to feel more understandable, or when they can slow...

Clients often begin to feel progress when they notice a shift in their emotional experience — when something that once felt overwhelming starts to feel more understandable, or when they can slow down enough to recognise what’s happening inside them. In EFT and EFIT, this often shows up as moments of increased clarity, softening, or connection: understanding their patterns, feeling more compassion for themselves, or experiencing a different kind of interaction with a partner or loved one. Progress is usually felt not as a dramatic change, but as a growing sense of safety, coherence, and possibility.

This questions is a little difficult to answer. I think it depends on the client and how willing they are to commit to the process of therapy. To make good progress, consistently attending weekly...

This questions is a little difficult to answer. I think it depends on the client and how willing they are to commit to the process of therapy. To make good progress, consistently attending weekly sessions are best for at least 3-6 months. Easing off to fortnightly for another 3- 6 months is good. Some people will need weekly sessions for 1-2 years. It takes a while for a therapist to get a good sense of someone and their life, and it takes time for client to fully trust and speak openly and truthfully to a therapist without falling into shame and self-loathing. It’s okay that clients move tentatively to begin with. However, I consider that progress is being made when someone is willing to self-reflect without beating themselves up all the time. When banished emotions are reclaimed, people are truly moving towards healing.

A sign of progress is when the client is able to recognise within themselves a sense of space, where what has been difficult and challenging may still be present but doesn't have the same grip and...

A sign of progress is when the client is able to recognise within themselves a sense of space, where what has been difficult and challenging may still be present but doesn't have the same grip and hold on their life and wellbeing. With this space, the client may have a sense of expanded perspectives and capacity where there is more room and energy for a wider range of feelings and even opportunities. These shifts can range from feeling greater energy, a sense of calm, increased self-compassion, enhanced relationships through to the capacity to mourn, forgive and make hard decisions. Often, these signs of progress emerge out of the honest and courageous efforts to name and turn towards what is painful and challenging.

From the beginning. I think that when the therapeutic relationship is likely to be valuable both client and therapist feel it early on. I prefer to take things slow at the start, to clearly establish...

From the beginning. I think that when the therapeutic relationship is likely to be valuable both client and therapist feel it early on. I prefer to take things slow at the start, to clearly establish what the client needs, what context this need has emerged from, and what I believe we can do together to address. However, I believe that even in this process of laying the ground work the client should feel that they are beginning to make progress, even if it just by clarifying their own intention and commitment to the process of change.

Progress in therapy is a highly individual experience and can vary greatly from one person to another. In my practice, I believe that clients may start to feel progress when they begin to notice a...

Progress in therapy is a highly individual experience and can vary greatly from one person to another. In my practice, I believe that clients may start to feel progress when they begin to notice a shift in their awareness, understanding, or feelings about their circumstances. This could manifest as a deeper sense of self-awareness, a new perspective on a long-standing issue, or a greater capacity to manage difficult emotions. Often, progress is felt when clients start to experience a sense of connection—both with themselves and with others—enabling them to make meaning from their experiences in new ways. Small but significant changes, like feeling more understood, having a safe space to explore difficult topics, or beginning to access self-compassion and self-acceptance, can signal the start of meaningful progress. It is about creating an environment where the client feels safe, supported, and empowered to explore their inner world and move towards healing at their own pace.

Showing up is already the first step towards progress, and I like to remind clients of that. Change often happens slowly, then all at once, and timelines vary for each person. Early on, I aim to...

Showing up is already the first step towards progress, and I like to remind clients of that. Change often happens slowly, then all at once, and timelines vary for each person. Early on, I aim to create a space where clients begin to notice subtle shifts — feeling heard, held, and more hopeful. Over time, these build into more consistent changes in thinking, feeling, and behaviour.

This can vary, but many people begin to notice small shifts early on, such as feeling understood, having more clarity about what they are experiencing, or finding moments of relief. Over time,...

This can vary, but many people begin to notice small shifts early on, such as feeling understood, having more clarity about what they are experiencing, or finding moments of relief. Over time, progress often looks like responding differently to situations that once felt overwhelming, developing greater self awareness, and experiencing a sense of healing in areas that have felt stuck or painful. It can also involve feeling more connected to yourself, and moving towards a way of living that feels more meaningful.

I think clients begin to feel progress when they form a collaborative and trusting relationship with the therapist in which they feel understood and accepted, and when they start to better understand...

I think clients begin to feel progress when they form a collaborative and trusting relationship with the therapist in which they feel understood and accepted, and when they start to better understand themselves in a way that feels significant. And for most people progress is also felt when they start to suffer less and move further towards the life they truly desire and value. There can be powerful wake up call moments, or deep transformative, emotion releasing moments along the way, and these really strengthen a client's ongoing commitment to the work.

I believe progress is being made when clients feel empowered and begin to make little changes in their lives. I help clients set SMART goals so that progress can be measurable. Also, I evaluate and...

I believe progress is being made when clients feel empowered and begin to make little changes in their lives. I help clients set SMART goals so that progress can be measurable. Also, I evaluate and assess regularly to ensure positive treatment outcomes. Together with my client, necessary adjustments are made based on client situations and feedback.

The experience of progress can look different for each person and depends on their circumstances, goals, and the effort they put into the therapeutic process. For some people, progress begins quite...

The experience of progress can look different for each person and depends on their circumstances, goals, and the effort they put into the therapeutic process. For some people, progress begins quite early through the simple experience of being heard and understood. For others, it may take time as trust develops and deeper patterns begin to emerge. Meaningful change often happens gradually as insight develops, new perspectives are explored, and practical strategies are applied in everyday life. Therapy is a collaborative process, and progress tends to grow when clients actively engage in reflection and experimentation with new ways of thinking, responding, and approaching challenges. Over time, many clients notice changes such as greater self-understanding, improved emotional regulation, clearer boundaries, and a stronger sense of direction and confidence.

I believe clients feel some relief from distress within the first 1-3 sessions.

I believe clients feel some relief from distress within the first 1-3 sessions.

When clients find the courage to go to places that they fear, and 'come out the other side' of a painful topic or area of their lives still emotionally intact.

When clients find the courage to go to places that they fear, and 'come out the other side' of a painful topic or area of their lives still emotionally intact.

Six weekly sessions are recommended to start with. At the sixth session, your progress is reviewed together. Depending on the progress made, you may wish to drop back to fortnightly, three-weekly or...

Six weekly sessions are recommended to start with. At the sixth session, your progress is reviewed together. Depending on the progress made, you may wish to drop back to fortnightly, three-weekly or monthly sessions. Or you might choose to take a break and return to counselling at a later date.

This varies from person to person, but many clients begin to notice small shifts within the first few sessions. Early progress might look like feeling more understood, gaining new language for their...

This varies from person to person, but many clients begin to notice small shifts within the first few sessions. Early progress might look like feeling more understood, gaining new language for their experiences, or beginning to see links between past experiences, current triggers, and familiar patterns. Over time, progress often involves recognising default coping strategies that may once have been protective, then gently retiring or reshaping them in favour of approaches that better serve the client’s current life, relationships, and goals. This can include building new emotional skills, changing unhelpful thinking patterns, or learning more sustainable ways to respond to stress and overwhelm.

The first step of progress occurs before I even get involved - that moment where somebody decides that they want to experience change and is willing to move out of their comfort zone and seek out a...

The first step of progress occurs before I even get involved - that moment where somebody decides that they want to experience change and is willing to move out of their comfort zone and seek out a counsellor to speak with. The second step of progress usually happens after 1 or 2 sessions, when the client decides that they will share what it is that is concerning them. Make no mistake - this is a huge and awesome moment and I always feel honoured by the trust that somebody show me by sharing their personal story. Following that, clients often will continue working with me for 8-12 sessions before they feel like they have reached their goals or feel confident enough to continue seeking answers on their own - though I do have some clients who will have a regular 'check-in' session even years after they initially began.

The timeline for clients to feel progress can vary depending on several factors, such as the nature of their challenges, the therapeutic approach, and their level of engagement in the process....

The timeline for clients to feel progress can vary depending on several factors, such as the nature of their challenges, the therapeutic approach, and their level of engagement in the process. However, here are a few general indicators that clients might notice as progress: Initial Relief: Clients may start feeling relief after just a few sessions, especially if they feel heard, understood, and supported in a safe space. This sense of validation can be the first sign that progress is being made. Increased Self-Awareness: As therapy progresses, clients often become more aware of their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. They may start recognizing patterns that were previously unclear, which can feel like a breakthrough moment in understanding themselves. Small Behavioral Changes: Clients may begin to notice small shifts in their behaviors or coping strategies. For example, they may handle stress better, react differently in challenging situations, or apply new tools learned in therapy. Shift in Perspective: A key sign of progress is when clients start to shift their perspective on their problems. They might begin to see challenges as opportunities for growth or feel more empowered in how they approach their life and decisions. Reduction in Symptoms: If the client is dealing with anxiety, depression, or other mental health concerns, they might notice a reduction in the intensity or frequency of symptoms, which can be a clear marker of progress. Increased Hope and Motivation: Over time, clients may begin to feel more hopeful about the future and motivated to make positive changes in their lives. This sense of optimism is often a sign that therapy is working.

Progress in therapy varies from person to person and depends on the nature of the difficulties being explored, the client’s goals, and their readiness for change. Many clients notice some early...

Progress in therapy varies from person to person and depends on the nature of the difficulties being explored, the client’s goals, and their readiness for change. Many clients notice some early shifts within the first few sessions, such as feeling better understood, gaining clarity about their experiences, or feeling more hopeful and less alone. More substantive change — such as improved emotional regulation, behavioural shifts, or changes in long-standing patterns — often develops gradually over time. Therapy is not always linear, and periods of insight or relief can be followed by moments of challenge as new understanding is integrated. I place importance on regularly reviewing progress together, so we can reflect on what is helping, adjust the approach if needed, and ensure the work remains aligned with the client’s goals. Progress is understood not only as symptom reduction, but also as increased self-understanding, flexibility, and confidence in navigating life’s challenges.

This depends on what is meant by progress. Also people have different temperaments and experience, so it is hard to give a generic answer. It is often the case that clients can feel some relief after...

This depends on what is meant by progress. Also people have different temperaments and experience, so it is hard to give a generic answer. It is often the case that clients can feel some relief after just one or two sessions. Unhelpful patterns that have been present for many years, can start to shift in a few sessions .

From my experience this varies with individual experiences but I have trust and faith in peoples own internal systems that know when they feel like they are understanding themselves more deeply and...

From my experience this varies with individual experiences but I have trust and faith in peoples own internal systems that know when they feel like they are understanding themselves more deeply and can change their way of being in the world to their satisfaction.

Progress is an interesting word. It may feel conditional, hopeful, stressful, and even forceful, depending on where we are at. I am inspired by Peter Merry’s view of progress, “Pay attention...

Progress is an interesting word. It may feel conditional, hopeful, stressful, and even forceful, depending on where we are at. I am inspired by Peter Merry’s view of progress, “Pay attention to what wants to happen now and take the next natural step. That’s all.” I think that meaningful progress happens whenever the client is able to be present moment to moment to what is arising within themselves and between us. I work hard to support this in every meeting with the client.

The experience of progress in therapy is deeply individual and can vary depending on the client’s unique circumstances, goals, and commitment to the process. However, there are some common...

The experience of progress in therapy is deeply individual and can vary depending on the client’s unique circumstances, goals, and commitment to the process. However, there are some common indicators that often signal when a client begins to feel that progress is being made. Typically, clients start to notice progress when they begin to feel more self-aware and connected to their thoughts and emotions. This often occurs after they’ve engaged with the therapeutic process for a few sessions, allowing time to build a trusting relationship and explore the issues at hand. When clients start recognizing patterns in their behaviour and thought processes and feel more equipped to manage challenges using the tools and strategies we’ve discussed, they often report a sense of movement and improvement. For some, progress is felt when they begin to experience relief from symptoms such as anxiety, depression, or relationship conflict. This might happen as they learn new coping strategies or when they start implementing small, manageable changes in their daily lives that lead to noticeable differences in how they feel and interact with others. Clients may also feel a sense of progress when they start to achieve the goals they set at the beginning of therapy, whether that’s improved communication in relationships, greater emotional regulation, or enhanced self-esteem. These tangible achievements can provide a strong sense of accomplishment and validation that the work they’re doing in therapy is making a real impact. It’s important to remember that progress is not always linear, and there may be ups and downs along the way. However, as clients continue to engage with the therapeutic process, they typically find that their capacity for self-compassion, resilience, and personal growth increases, leading to a deeper and more sustained sense of progress over time.

It depends on the presentation, but most of my clients start to gain some level of clarity about their situation after the first or second session. Clarity can make a big difference, as it brings with...

It depends on the presentation, but most of my clients start to gain some level of clarity about their situation after the first or second session. Clarity can make a big difference, as it brings with it a sense of agency and hope.

Progress looks different for everyone- some people notice changes quickly in how they manage emotions, set boundaries, or approach challenges, while for others, growth unfolds more gradually as...

Progress looks different for everyone- some people notice changes quickly in how they manage emotions, set boundaries, or approach challenges, while for others, growth unfolds more gradually as insight, confidence, and practical strategies develop. I work collaboratively with each client to identify goals and celebrate small steps along the way, helping them recognise progress in ways that are meaningful to them.

Every person’s journey is unique, and progress looks different for each individual. Some clients begin to notice small shifts—like feeling safer, more understood, or more hopeful—within the...

Every person’s journey is unique, and progress looks different for each individual. Some clients begin to notice small shifts—like feeling safer, more understood, or more hopeful—within the first few sessions. For others, progress may be felt as they build new strategies, strengthen emotional regulation, or reconnect with a sense of purpose over time. I encourage clients to notice and celebrate these small but meaningful changes, as they often signal the foundation for deeper, long-term growth and recovery.

This is certainly individual but I hope from the first session a coupl or individual may notice some difference in their thinking and or behaviour.

This is certainly individual but I hope from the first session a coupl or individual may notice some difference in their thinking and or behaviour.

It depends. Some clients may feel progress after the first couple of sessions. Others might need more time. It most definitely depends on what the client defines as 'progress'. What's your...

It depends. Some clients may feel progress after the first couple of sessions. Others might need more time. It most definitely depends on what the client defines as 'progress'. What's your definition? How do you know if you're making progress versus going backwards? Is it more internal or external or both? Is it based on your thoughts, feelings, experience or how others perceive you? What is important is the client's level of engagement and the strength of the relationship between the client and therapist..

The timing of progress in counseling can vary for each individual, as it is influenced by various factors such as the nature of their concerns, their readiness for change, and their level of...

The timing of progress in counseling can vary for each individual, as it is influenced by various factors such as the nature of their concerns, their readiness for change, and their level of engagement in the therapeutic process. However, clients often begin to feel that progress is being made when they experience a greater sense of self-awareness, insight, and empowerment. They may notice a shift in their perspectives, an increased ability to cope with challenges, or a greater sense of clarity and purpose. Additionally, as clients start to implement and integrate new coping strategies and insights into their daily lives, they may observe positive changes in their thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and relationships. The recognition of progress is a highly individualized and subjective experience, and I work collaboratively with clients to identify and celebrate these milestones along their unique journey of healing and growth.

It is different for everyone given their personality, trauma history, coping style etc. Change can often happen in 3-12 months of weekly to fortnightly therapy.

It is different for everyone given their personality, trauma history, coping style etc. Change can often happen in 3-12 months of weekly to fortnightly therapy.

Clients begin to feel progress when they notice positive changes within themselves—whether in their thoughts, feelings, behaviours, or overall outlook. These shifts often bring greater clarity,...

Clients begin to feel progress when they notice positive changes within themselves—whether in their thoughts, feelings, behaviours, or overall outlook. These shifts often bring greater clarity, confidence, and a renewed sense of control, marking important steps forward on their journey of growth and healing.

This differs for everyone and is dependent on where the client is at, how supportive their environment is and how engaged people are in their healing journey. Therapy is a collaborative relationship...

This differs for everyone and is dependent on where the client is at, how supportive their environment is and how engaged people are in their healing journey. Therapy is a collaborative relationship where the therapist guides the person, and they need to do the work. Saying that, most people who return to therapy are making progress, sometimes small shifts, sometimes monumental. Participating in Therapy is a commitment to change, to knowing thyself and taking action to move toward the life you dream.

Clients start to feel progress as they gain self-awareness, reduce symptoms, and adopt new coping strategies. They often experience shifts in perspective, increased confidence, and better emotional...

Clients start to feel progress as they gain self-awareness, reduce symptoms, and adopt new coping strategies. They often experience shifts in perspective, increased confidence, and better emotional regulation, with progress unfolding through small, incremental changes.

Whilst progress is an entirely subjective experience and different for everyone, my hope is that all my clients experience a sense of relief within the first three sessions, by simply knowing they are...

Whilst progress is an entirely subjective experience and different for everyone, my hope is that all my clients experience a sense of relief within the first three sessions, by simply knowing they are with someone who will hear them, and is actively in their corner, working on solutions with them.

Clients often feel progress when they gain clarity about their challenges, experience small wins, or feel relief after sharing their thoughts in a safe space. Noticing improved emotions,...

Clients often feel progress when they gain clarity about their challenges, experience small wins, or feel relief after sharing their thoughts in a safe space. Noticing improved emotions, relationships, or new perspectives can also signal change. Progress varies, but regular reviews help clients recognise their growth and build confidence in the process. I also conduct periodic assessment using tools like K-10.

This is very hard to answer. Everyone is different and seeking different things from therapy. For some relief comes from the first conversation and the ability to share what is happening to them with...

This is very hard to answer. Everyone is different and seeking different things from therapy. For some relief comes from the first conversation and the ability to share what is happening to them with a person who is non-judgemental and empathetic. For others it can be like waves, where an initial specific issue gains progress and then another issue emerges behind it that is connected and seeks relief.

Progress is very unique to each individual, so when someone starts to feel a shift, it can look very different depending on what they’re experiencing. Some might notice a sense of relief or clarity...

Progress is very unique to each individual, so when someone starts to feel a shift, it can look very different depending on what they’re experiencing. Some might notice a sense of relief or clarity after just a few sessions, while for others, progress might show up as a deeper awareness of patterns or emotional responses over time. Ultimately, therapy is less about a specific timeline of ‘getting better’ and more about expanding your awareness and deepening your understanding of yourself so you have the freedom to make different choices.

This is a vary subjective question however, generally progress is made quite quickly as even the decision to start therapy can itself be a healing decision. Collaborating together to create an...

This is a vary subjective question however, generally progress is made quite quickly as even the decision to start therapy can itself be a healing decision. Collaborating together to create an individual plan is a powerful tool for long term benefits. However it is not a linear process and we utilise patience towards understanding that sometimes it has to hurt if it is to heal.

People can express a feeling of relief after their first session, from having talked about what is meaningful to them and having experienced being listened to. It can take time for the relationship to...

People can express a feeling of relief after their first session, from having talked about what is meaningful to them and having experienced being listened to. It can take time for the relationship to feel comfortable and the work to unfold, there are many factors at play.

That's a big question.... Sometimes it's actually when things heat up, not when they cool down. Luckily I have bright clients who can also judge for themselves if therapy is effective. I like to...

That's a big question.... Sometimes it's actually when things heat up, not when they cool down. Luckily I have bright clients who can also judge for themselves if therapy is effective. I like to have an ongoing dialogue about this whether what I am doing works for the person that I'm working with.

It's best to forget about progress and other expectations which come from somewhere else. Things will begin to move when the person or patient really engages with their own words and thoughts

It's best to forget about progress and other expectations which come from somewhere else. Things will begin to move when the person or patient really engages with their own words and thoughts

My focus is on the client's experience and a key part of the way I work is to regularly check in with my client in every session to ask how they are tracking and to ascertain what, and also what is...

My focus is on the client's experience and a key part of the way I work is to regularly check in with my client in every session to ask how they are tracking and to ascertain what, and also what is not, working for them. I can make no guarantee about when a client might feel progress will be made but if we stay in close relational contact then together we can begin to understand what will work best for each client.

I think if it go well then just being heard by another can begin the healing process.

I think if it go well then just being heard by another can begin the healing process.

It can be hard to say for sure, as what each person needs from therapy is different. Sometimes people might feel a little progress has been made after the first session, if they feel that I've...

It can be hard to say for sure, as what each person needs from therapy is different. Sometimes people might feel a little progress has been made after the first session, if they feel that I've understood and really heard what their experience has been. Others won't feel they have made progress until they have a significant insight into how they got here, and are able to start working on the attached feelings.

That differs with each individual, but even the first few sessions of establishing rapport and building trust can help in feeling more positive and confident about the possibility of progress. Being...

That differs with each individual, but even the first few sessions of establishing rapport and building trust can help in feeling more positive and confident about the possibility of progress. Being listened to with full attention and receiving understanding, acceptance and unconditional positive regard can make an enormous difference to our perception of our experience.

When their behaviour starts to change, and when their nervous system feels less reactive.

When their behaviour starts to change, and when their nervous system feels less reactive.

The progress for each client varies immensely! As each client presents with a unique background, traumatic or distressing event(s), short and long term goal(s), past experience(s) and personal...

The progress for each client varies immensely! As each client presents with a unique background, traumatic or distressing event(s), short and long term goal(s), past experience(s) and personal characteristics. As the client and myself work through the issues and towards goals during therapy, the progress undoubtedly will begin to occur. This happens a lot sooner for some and a lot later for others, as it also realise heavily on how much the client would prefer to unpack and work towards. Furthermore, as a therapist, building a strong and healthy rapport with the client will play in the time spent towards progress.

Progress depends on what the client wants to achieve. I think the six-session model is okay for teaching the basics of behavioural change. The first two sessions are really just getting to know one...

Progress depends on what the client wants to achieve. I think the six-session model is okay for teaching the basics of behavioural change. The first two sessions are really just getting to know one another and build a therapeutic alliance. However, for more deep-rooted change or for processing of trauma (for example) it may take a while before you feel like you are making progress. I also think that people can use different therapists to get them through different parts of their journey, each therapist building upon the progress of the last. I have also seen great gains being made from just a single session and I must recognise that this isn't just my doing but the culmination of lots of different learnings that client has obtained that happened to come together with me in that moment. It's different for everyone. We are all works in progress, constantly changing and growing. I do know however, that progress is going to be difficult if the rapport isn't there so if you're not clicking with your therapist - move on and find a different one!

Some of my clients start to feel progress within a few sessions, while others may take several weeks or months of consistent therapy. It is important to remember that therapy is a personal process and...

Some of my clients start to feel progress within a few sessions, while others may take several weeks or months of consistent therapy. It is important to remember that therapy is a personal process and progress will look different for each client. My job is to make myself redundant, and I am to get you feeling better and needing me less and less.

Early signs of progress are when the client accepts that the journey of therapeutic discovery has to come from within themselves. This is seen in the context of a person developing an attitude of...

Early signs of progress are when the client accepts that the journey of therapeutic discovery has to come from within themselves. This is seen in the context of a person developing an attitude of responsibility. Feeling stuck or struggling with dilemmas are also signs of progress, as these are the times when we need to make a detour in our everyday ways of being and get to work with the more difficult demands of our existence. Once again this calls for resilience and a demonstration that when the going gets tough we see the tough get going! Progress is visible when a person becomes more accepting of their lived experience and ventures into those experiences more fully and stays with the process of exploration to discover how they may have arrived at this way of being. From here, they may consider new ways of being that are more authentic and satisfying. Progress could also be said to be made when distress, previously experienced in ways that were constricting and distressing, are now viewed as part of the ongoing journey of one's life that needs to be experienced and understood. Essentially, progress could be felt when a person begins to feel parts of themselves becoming more integrated and a sense of acceptance of being who they are along with the courage and faith of moving into places that feel different, new and authentic.

People have often commented on how they feel they are getting somewhere within the first handful of sessions.. I seem to be able to assist most people, although there have been exceptions...

People have often commented on how they feel they are getting somewhere within the first handful of sessions.. I seem to be able to assist most people, although there have been exceptions...

I believe clients start to feel progress is made when they gain significant insight into deeper underlying beliefs about themselves and are able to process associated emotions.

I believe clients start to feel progress is made when they gain significant insight into deeper underlying beliefs about themselves and are able to process associated emotions.

When the client says that they are seeing or feeling things differently. When they are sleeping better. When they sense relief that a weight has been lifted. When they feel glad and are...

When the client says that they are seeing or feeling things differently. When they are sleeping better. When they sense relief that a weight has been lifted. When they feel glad and are optimistic. When they start to worry less and enjoy the present rather than feel guilt about the past or fear about the future.

When the bond/therapuetic relationship is intentionally talked about in the room.

When the bond/therapuetic relationship is intentionally talked about in the room.

I hope that you, the client, will start to feel that progress is being made from the moment you first reach out, because in fact just being brave enough to reach out and ask for help is the first sign...

I hope that you, the client, will start to feel that progress is being made from the moment you first reach out, because in fact just being brave enough to reach out and ask for help is the first sign that you're making progress. With each interaction we have you will make a little progress. Some moments will feel bigger than others. Sometimes light bulbs will go off during counselling, sometimes they'll go off afterwards. We'll track your journey together and make sure that we check in with each other as we go to ensure that you feel you're making progress.