Psychotherapists and Counsellors Answer your Questions

I think there is something quite powerful in the reflective surface that therapy offers us. When we feel safe and acknowledged with a therapist, we are in a position where we can speak more freely...

I think there is something quite powerful in the reflective surface that therapy offers us. When we feel safe and acknowledged with a therapist, we are in a position where we can speak more freely about things that have just been in our heads for a long time. My own journey with therapy - and I speak about this in a broad way as I see therapy having very broad possibilities - has made it possible for me to make better choices about how I spend my time, put my hopes for my life into action and improved my relationships with others. It has helped me to relax in stressful situations and to respond to others in more open-hearted ways.

Greater self-awareness and acceptance, improved emotional regulation and stronger connections.

Greater self-awareness and acceptance, improved emotional regulation and stronger connections.

In so many ways. Yet not without a serious effort and a commitment to working on myself. All of what I am about to say is a work in progress and by no means am I able to do this all the time. It...

In so many ways. Yet not without a serious effort and a commitment to working on myself. All of what I am about to say is a work in progress and by no means am I able to do this all the time. It speaks to my best self when I am able to be that best self. I have changed dramatically since my first ever therapy session. I have learned to be aware of my thinking, my feelings, my nervous system's threat responses, my perceptions, my judgements, my narratives and commentaries. I have learned to differentiate between thoughts and feelings. I have learned to understand when I get triggered and what I need to calm myself down when I am. I have learned to self-regulate, to calm my nervous system down. and to take more responsibility for myself as an adult in the world. As a result I am less anxious and more able to tolerate distress, disappointment, upset, failure and stress. I have lived through major losses in my life and know in myself that I can still thrive and grow in resilience. I have learned to understand my limitations, to respect other people's limitations, to know how I impact relationships and see my part in my relationship patterns with family and friends. I have accepted the cards I have been dealt with in life and know how to manage my expectations. I have learned to function for myself and know when I am asking others to function for me. I have learned to understand how I function for others and what is not useful about that. I have learned to hold myself when no one else will or can. I know deep in myself that I can live through incredible pain and not be broken down by it but rather be broken open.

More self and other awareness and compassion.

More self and other awareness and compassion.

* Improved my connection with myself, including boundaries, purpose, healing my personal wounds and traumas * Improved my relationships, communication and connection with others and lots more.......

* Improved my connection with myself, including boundaries, purpose, healing my personal wounds and traumas * Improved my relationships, communication and connection with others and lots more.......

I would like to think it has made me a better person. But maybe that is best left for others to judge! I do feel certain that therapy has helped me become a more self-compassionate, mindful and...

I would like to think it has made me a better person. But maybe that is best left for others to judge! I do feel certain that therapy has helped me become a more self-compassionate, mindful and resilient person. I'm frequently astounded by the way I handle ongoing challenges compared to how I did even just a year or so ago. I am very grateful for my own wonderful experiences of therapy which are ongoing.

Therapy has helped me become more understanding, compassionate, and aware of the complexity of human emotions and behaviour. It has shaped the way I connect with others and strengthened my ability to...

Therapy has helped me become more understanding, compassionate, and aware of the complexity of human emotions and behaviour. It has shaped the way I connect with others and strengthened my ability to support people with empathy and kindness. It continues to deepen my knowledge of what people need to feel safe, regulated, and valued.

Therapy has had a transformative impact on my life. It has enabled me to process past trauma and be fully present in the here and now. Through this work, I have developed a deep understanding of my...

Therapy has had a transformative impact on my life. It has enabled me to process past trauma and be fully present in the here and now. Through this work, I have developed a deep understanding of my emotions, learned to regulate them effectively, and establish healthy boundaries. Therapy has also supported the development of confidence and self-esteem, enabling me to engage fully in my life and relationships, even when facing challenges. These personal experiences inform my approach as a counsellor, allowing me to create a safe, supportive, and empowering space for clients to explore, grow, and navigate their own journeys toward wellbeing.

Therapy has taught me how to stay present with difficult feelings without being overwhelmed by them. It has helped me recognise patterns shaped by responsibility, loss, and survival, and to relate to...

Therapy has taught me how to stay present with difficult feelings without being overwhelmed by them. It has helped me recognise patterns shaped by responsibility, loss, and survival, and to relate to them with more compassion. Perhaps most importantly, therapy has shown me the difference it makes to be witnessed without judgment. That experience shapes how I sit with others: attentive, respectful, slow to interpret, willing to wait.

My own therapy experiences have given me greater capacity to meet life on its own terms, put the past into perspective and safeguard my peace.

My own therapy experiences have given me greater capacity to meet life on its own terms, put the past into perspective and safeguard my peace.

Its made a massive difference. In my own therapy, I was able to build my self awareness about my own patterns, explore my history and do healing I needed to do. Growth is an ongoing thing though...

Its made a massive difference. In my own therapy, I was able to build my self awareness about my own patterns, explore my history and do healing I needed to do. Growth is an ongoing thing though and I think one of the gifts of therapy is that it can give you tools that you can continue to cultivate in yourself throughout your life. My therapist Anne has been a big inspiration to how I work.

Yes I definitely feel and see the changes that have happened in my life. When I look back on my journey as a client, then student, and professional therapist I can see how I have developed as a human....

Yes I definitely feel and see the changes that have happened in my life. When I look back on my journey as a client, then student, and professional therapist I can see how I have developed as a human. I believe it has been a culmination of healing moments that have enabled me to be at this place in my life. I feel blessed to have met the therapists that I met that helped shape my choices and transformation. I realise now that life continues to be an amazing opportunity to learn and grow utilizing meditation, and body-mind psychotherapy to evolve as a better person.

Therapy has been a grounding and clarifying experience in my own life. It gave me space to step out of being the capable one and simply be honest about what I was carrying. Through that process, I...

Therapy has been a grounding and clarifying experience in my own life. It gave me space to step out of being the capable one and simply be honest about what I was carrying. Through that process, I learned to approach myself with more compassion, tolerate uncertainty and respond rather than react. Experiencing the relief that comes from being genuinely heard shaped the way I practise. It reminds me that real change often begins with safety, honesty and steady support.

Therapy has allowed me to help more people by gaining a deeper understanding of a wide range of mood, personality and behavioural issues.

Therapy has allowed me to help more people by gaining a deeper understanding of a wide range of mood, personality and behavioural issues.

It drew me to become a psychotherapist counsellor. More self and other awareness, kindness and compassion.

It drew me to become a psychotherapist counsellor. More self and other awareness, kindness and compassion.

Therapy gave me a renewed sense of hope and purpose as I resolved trauma from a difficult life experience at 17 - leading me to want to help others in this way.

Therapy gave me a renewed sense of hope and purpose as I resolved trauma from a difficult life experience at 17 - leading me to want to help others in this way.

Therapy, especially with the Internal Family Systems (IFS) approach, has been a truly transformative experience. It's not just about my clients' growth; it has also profoundly impacted my journey....

Therapy, especially with the Internal Family Systems (IFS) approach, has been a truly transformative experience. It's not just about my clients' growth; it has also profoundly impacted my journey. It's a mutual process of learning and development that deepens my insight into human nature and the complexities of the human mind. Here's how therapy, and IFS in particular, has contributed to my personal growth: 1. **Heightened Empathy:** Collaborating with clients who have faced severe trauma, mood disorders, and life's various challenges has significantly expanded my capacity for empathy. Witnessing their struggles and achievements has deepened my understanding of the human experience and the resilience of the human spirit. 2. **Self-Exploration:** Guiding clients through their self-discovery journeys has also prompted me to engage in self-reflection. It serves as a reminder that personal growth is an ongoing process, and the valuable tools I share with my clients are equally beneficial for my self-improvement. 3. **Enhanced Communication:** IFS, with its focus on the communication of emotions and parts, has improved my therapeutic skills and enhanced my communication abilities in personal relationships. It fosters better listening, empathetic understanding, and constructive dialogue. 4. **Self-Compassion:** As I assist clients in developing self-compassion, I've also learned to extend this kindness and understanding towards myself. It's vital to maintaining emotional well-being and resilience in a demanding field like therapy. 5. **Holistic Understanding:** My immersion in IFS and other therapeutic modalities has provided me with a more holistic understanding of the human psyche and the body-mind connection. This knowledge has broadened my perspective on health and personal growth. 6. **Strengthened Resilience:** Witnessing the transformative power of IFS in clients' lives has reinforced my belief in the human capacity for change and healing. This has bolstered my resilience and determination to support clients through their own journeys. Ultimately, therapy, particularly through the lens of IFS, has been a deeply enriching journey. It's enhanced my effectiveness as a therapist and nurtured qualities like compassion, self-awareness, and empathy within me. This experience has broadened my horizons, professionally and personally, and it's an ongoing process of growth that aligns with each client's distinctive path.

As a client: 1. Resolved traumatic life events. 2. Made me a more aware, responsible and compassionate person. 3. Saved my marriage. As a therapist: 1. My inner and outer worlds now feel...

As a client: 1. Resolved traumatic life events. 2. Made me a more aware, responsible and compassionate person. 3. Saved my marriage. As a therapist: 1. My inner and outer worlds now feel congruent. 2. I am doing what I am meant to be doing. 3. Greater sense of fulfilment, mission and purpose.

I think that we are all good people, its just that stuff gets in the way of our making our goodness and creativity felt in the world. I have managed to remove some of the obstacles, especially around...

I think that we are all good people, its just that stuff gets in the way of our making our goodness and creativity felt in the world. I have managed to remove some of the obstacles, especially around taking responsibility for myself and my needs. Somatic work particularly has helped me deepen self awareness and become better at self-regulation (looking after my own well-being), hopefully making me a better friend, partner and member of the community.

Therapy has reinforced for me the value of self-awareness, emotional honesty, and meaningful relationships. It has taught me the importance of understanding patterns rather than judging them, and the...

Therapy has reinforced for me the value of self-awareness, emotional honesty, and meaningful relationships. It has taught me the importance of understanding patterns rather than judging them, and the role connection plays in personal growth and wellbeing.

It builds self-awareness, which allows us to choose how we relate to ourselves and others. Being able to hear how we talk to ourselves is necessary for listening to ourselves and improving our...

It builds self-awareness, which allows us to choose how we relate to ourselves and others. Being able to hear how we talk to ourselves is necessary for listening to ourselves and improving our situations.

Humans need connection - safe families, friends, workplaces. Therapy has helped me resolve grief that ran through generations of my family, and to let go weight that didn't start with me, that...

Humans need connection - safe families, friends, workplaces. Therapy has helped me resolve grief that ran through generations of my family, and to let go weight that didn't start with me, that wasn't mine. Therapists get drawn to this work, partly from our own interest and need. Its natural enough then to want to share it...

Therapy has profoundly shaped my life, both personally and professionally. It provided me with the tools to navigate my own challenges, and complex relational dynamics, fostering deeper self-awareness...

Therapy has profoundly shaped my life, both personally and professionally. It provided me with the tools to navigate my own challenges, and complex relational dynamics, fostering deeper self-awareness and emotional resilience. Through therapy, I gained clarity, cultivated healthier relationships, and developed a stronger sense of autonomy and purpose. Professionally, therapy has been transformative in how I connect with clients, reinforcing the importance of empathy, active listening, and creating a safe space for healing. It has shown me that personal growth is not a linear journey but one of ongoing self-discovery. These experiences allow me to relate to my clients with authenticity and compassion, empowering them to overcome challenges and reclaim their well-being.

Therapy has given me so much more insight into myself and the experience of being a client.

Therapy has given me so much more insight into myself and the experience of being a client.

It is not my intent to become a better person through therapy but of course, each person I work with, and the relationship we create together, changes me in some way. I definitely have greater...

It is not my intent to become a better person through therapy but of course, each person I work with, and the relationship we create together, changes me in some way. I definitely have greater capacity for holding people in their struggles, in their emotions, for staying with whatever emerges, and for catching and acknowledging their successes. Outside work, my compassion, patience and commitment to self-care continue to grow and I've become a better mother, partner and friend.

Therapy has opened my heart to more fully accept different parts of me and in turn others, with curiosity and without judgement. Therapy has enabled me to deeply listen to my body and trust my inner...

Therapy has opened my heart to more fully accept different parts of me and in turn others, with curiosity and without judgement. Therapy has enabled me to deeply listen to my body and trust my inner voice.

It allowed me to begin to get comfortable in my own space, realising at a point, though friendships are lovely, they can be limited. It allowed me to change the relationship I had with myself, to get...

It allowed me to begin to get comfortable in my own space, realising at a point, though friendships are lovely, they can be limited. It allowed me to change the relationship I had with myself, to get to know who I was and gave me the knowledge of simple things not taught at school or society, to know what & how to begin to make changes I could not have imagined before.

Profoundly. I wouldn't teach what I haven't lived. My own therapeutic journey taught me that insight alone doesn't change us — something deeper has to move. That humility stays with me in every...

Profoundly. I wouldn't teach what I haven't lived. My own therapeutic journey taught me that insight alone doesn't change us — something deeper has to move. That humility stays with me in every session. I know what it is to sit on the other side of the process, and I don't take lightly what people bring me.

Therapy calls me to grow, reflect, learn, be honest with myself and others and go ever deeper into the complexity of the human experience. It continues to open my mind and perspective on the world and...

Therapy calls me to grow, reflect, learn, be honest with myself and others and go ever deeper into the complexity of the human experience. It continues to open my mind and perspective on the world and people's incredible resilience and wisdom in the midst of trauma and pain. Therapy calls me to integrity in all my relationships - at work, home and in life. Therapy teaches me humility - to accept and see myself as I humanly am - a fellow human travelling alongside other humans.

Knowledge is power. It has helped me be more understanding less judgemental and more able to make sense of the world. Having a very investigative personality I like to know why people act the way that...

Knowledge is power. It has helped me be more understanding less judgemental and more able to make sense of the world. Having a very investigative personality I like to know why people act the way that they do. Having gone through some very challenging times myself I have appreciated the knowledge I have gained from the study of psychology and been able to utilise the many strategies and skills to help me live a more functional, rewarding and meaningful life.

Therapy has helped me through past trauma.

Therapy has helped me through past trauma.

My own experience as a client in therapy has allowed me to bring out the best in me. It has given me a sense of self confidence and self-worth. I have found meaning and purpose through psychotherapy....

My own experience as a client in therapy has allowed me to bring out the best in me. It has given me a sense of self confidence and self-worth. I have found meaning and purpose through psychotherapy. It has made interpersonal relationships so much richer and meaningful. It has also enabled me to understand others in a more focused way and to listen before I speak so that I really understand the other persons point of view and then make suggestions based on this understanding. Therapy has also enabled me to be more spontaneous and present.

Through therapy, I’ve experienced personal growth and greater self-awareness. Having someone to reflect my thoughts back to me has been grounding and has helped me find clarity, peace, and happiness.

Through therapy, I’ve experienced personal growth and greater self-awareness. Having someone to reflect my thoughts back to me has been grounding and has helped me find clarity, peace, and happiness.

I have done individual therapy and couples therapy with my partner. I have studied and read extensively, and I love the calm that comes from knowing myself better. I don’t oscillate as wildly as I...

I have done individual therapy and couples therapy with my partner. I have studied and read extensively, and I love the calm that comes from knowing myself better. I don’t oscillate as wildly as I used to, and I now mostly feel grounded, focused and on path. I’m more aware of my patterns and acknowledge the need for ongoing reflective practice. Finally, I am gentler with myself when I get it wrong, self-compassion being central to my daily practice.

I can honestly say it has transformed me in many ways. I feel I have become even more empathic and patient in many ways. Through my own personal trauma healing journey I have also become calmer...

I can honestly say it has transformed me in many ways. I feel I have become even more empathic and patient in many ways. Through my own personal trauma healing journey I have also become calmer and more appreciative of life. It's allowed me to be more observant, have a greater acceptance of all kinds of diversity and understanding of other peoples challenges. It's made me kinder to myself, and others too.

Engaging in therapy for several years—and continuing through supervision and ongoing learning—has profoundly shaped both my being and my work. Through this journey, I’ve healed past trauma,...

Engaging in therapy for several years—and continuing through supervision and ongoing learning—has profoundly shaped both my being and my work. Through this journey, I’ve healed past trauma, gained deeper self-awareness, released fears and limiting beliefs, and softened my inner critic with compassion. I continue to grow, recognising that true healing is ongoing. Research indicates that therapists who themselves engage in personal therapy often bring greater authenticity, empathy, and trustworthiness to their therapeutic relationships—factors that significantly enhance client outcomes. In fact, the therapist’s own aligned and reflective presence plays a measurable role in effective therapy. So to be honest, my work is ongoing...

Therapy helped me get clear on where I am on my journey, provided a space for me to process my experiences, and highlighted my previous blindspots so I can integrate them and move forward in my...

Therapy helped me get clear on where I am on my journey, provided a space for me to process my experiences, and highlighted my previous blindspots so I can integrate them and move forward in my journey of evolution.

If I hadn't attended therapy, I would still be clinging to life, barely surviving. I now thrive in life, a full, healthy, happy life; I have two young boys, a wonderful husband and wake up grateful...

If I hadn't attended therapy, I would still be clinging to life, barely surviving. I now thrive in life, a full, healthy, happy life; I have two young boys, a wonderful husband and wake up grateful almost every day. Grateful I stepped into that room on the scariest day of my life. Grateful I gave it one more shot because I had tried at least seven times prior to finidng my therapist of fifteen years.

Therapy has been helpful as a place to gain clarity, self-reflect, explore the level of meaning being attached to certain experiences, thoughts and beliefs and develop clarity and confidence in my...

Therapy has been helpful as a place to gain clarity, self-reflect, explore the level of meaning being attached to certain experiences, thoughts and beliefs and develop clarity and confidence in my ability to change directions as needed.

Therapy has deepened my self-awareness, strengthened my resilience, and reinforced the importance of self-compassion. Like many people, I have experienced life's challenges, transitions, and periods...

Therapy has deepened my self-awareness, strengthened my resilience, and reinforced the importance of self-compassion. Like many people, I have experienced life's challenges, transitions, and periods of uncertainty. Having the opportunity to reflect, gain perspective, and develop practical strategies has helped me navigate these experiences with greater clarity and confidence. My personal mindfulness practice has also supported me to slow down, stay present, and maintain balance. These experiences have strengthened my belief in the value of counselling and the positive impact that being heard, understood, and supported can have. They continue to inform the empathy, authenticity, and respect I bring to my work with clients.

Being a therapist gives me a profound sense of purpose. It is a privilege to be invited into people’s inner worlds and to witness their transformation. This work constantly reminds me of the...

Being a therapist gives me a profound sense of purpose. It is a privilege to be invited into people’s inner worlds and to witness their transformation. This work constantly reminds me of the resilience of the human spirit. Seeing clients face their challenges and grow helps me stay grounded and grateful in my own life. It has taught me that no matter how stuck we feel, change is always possible and that genuine human connection is the most powerful tool we have.

Undergoing my own personal therapy has helped me to understand, feel and change my personal and psychological patterns.

Undergoing my own personal therapy has helped me to understand, feel and change my personal and psychological patterns.

I now consult myself when making decisions in life, I have emotional agility and can go with the flow. I also am able to process difficult situations and sit with difficult feelings. Most importantly...

I now consult myself when making decisions in life, I have emotional agility and can go with the flow. I also am able to process difficult situations and sit with difficult feelings. Most importantly I have support in my life to do this both inwardly and outwardly.

I have problems with the assumptions behind this question. What really is a better' person? We are who we are, and over time we change, sometimes more and sometimes less intentionally. Whilst therapy...

I have problems with the assumptions behind this question. What really is a better' person? We are who we are, and over time we change, sometimes more and sometimes less intentionally. Whilst therapy is one potential vehicle for intentional change, it doesn't necessarily lead to being a better' person. Hopefully a more self-aware person, however, who is able to take responsibility for their own actions and inactions. This I think is what it has done for me. I am more aware and accepting of positive as well as negative aspects within myself, and know that having both is quite normal. It has given me a greater appreciation of people's motivations for doing things, which aren't necessarily obvious or sensible to the people around them, and the complexities and many dilemmas involved in living. Seeing people's struggles has also made me a more empathic, compassionate, and caring person. Having had plenty of therapy myself I know from personal experience what it's like.

I have been transformed by therapy myself. I have developed a calmness and inner balance I never thought possible. I still engage in the therapeutic process.

I have been transformed by therapy myself. I have developed a calmness and inner balance I never thought possible. I still engage in the therapeutic process.

I am more resilient; I have fewer highs and lows and the peaks and troughs are no longer extreme; I can think my way through dilemmas, as well as feeling the feelings, and I don't need to rely on...

I am more resilient; I have fewer highs and lows and the peaks and troughs are no longer extreme; I can think my way through dilemmas, as well as feeling the feelings, and I don't need to rely on others for soothing and comfort (even though I sometimes choose to, but consciously so, not out of panic or overwhelm); I am okay to cry for as long as necessary and not to be afraid of my feelings; I am happy with my own company and with being alone, or just still. And I love having friends with whom I can share humour, affection and lightness of mood, or deep conversation as the need arises. I have learned to be more generous and more compassionate. And stronger.

Therapy has deeply shaped the way I understand myself and others. It’s given me the tools to sit with difficult emotions rather than avoid them, and to respond to life with more clarity and...

Therapy has deeply shaped the way I understand myself and others. It’s given me the tools to sit with difficult emotions rather than avoid them, and to respond to life with more clarity and compassion. Therapy taught me that healing isn’t about ‘fixing’ yourself it’s about acceptance, growth, and learning to be kinder to your inner world. Personally, it’s helped me build stronger relationships, set healthier boundaries, and live more in alignment with my values. Professionally, it reminds me every day of the courage it takes to be vulnerable and that healing looks different for everyone.

Therapy has deeply shaped the way I understand myself, others, and the human experience. It has given me a lived appreciation of what it means to sit with difficult emotions rather than move away...

Therapy has deeply shaped the way I understand myself, others, and the human experience. It has given me a lived appreciation of what it means to sit with difficult emotions rather than move away from them, and how healing often comes through being met with steadiness, curiosity, and care in relationship. It has supported me in making sense of my own grief and loss, and in recognising the ways these experiences continue to influence how I relate, connect, and respond to the world. Therapy has also helped me become more aware of my internal patterns, including protective responses that once felt automatic. Becoming a parent has further highlighted the importance of slowing down, noticing, and staying present with emotional experience, both my own and others. Therapy has supported me in holding the complexity and intensity that can come with that transition. Overall, therapy has reinforced my belief that change is not about becoming someone else, but about developing greater understanding, compassion, and integration within oneself. It continues to be both a personal and professional anchor in how I show up in my life and work.

Making aspects of my unconscious conscious

Making aspects of my unconscious conscious

I feel like I can say that therapy saved my life. I was navigating a dangerous situation with undiagnosed complex PTSD - white-knuckling through each day, overwhelmed by trauma symptoms I couldn't...

I feel like I can say that therapy saved my life. I was navigating a dangerous situation with undiagnosed complex PTSD - white-knuckling through each day, overwhelmed by trauma symptoms I couldn't understand or name. My therapist held space for me to fall apart and come back together. She believed in me when I was only a shell, held my potential when I'd lost sight of it. She offered trustworthy guidance when I had no centre. Through therapy, I discovered my own capacity for healing - and something larger, a spiritual medicine that began working through me in unexpected ways. That experience cracked opened my heart and changed my orientation to life. It's why I'm here, doing this work. I know what it means to be shredded and hollowed out by an experience, and then, miraculously, loved back to wholeness.

I experienced profound change and growth through my own therapy, so know from a lived experience that therapy with the right practitioner can be life changing. My experience as a client has given...

I experienced profound change and growth through my own therapy, so know from a lived experience that therapy with the right practitioner can be life changing. My experience as a client has given me a real appreciation of the vulnerability and courage required to do the 'work' of therapy, as well as gratitude for the positive impact of the therapy on my sense of self and my life in general. Knowing that therapy 'works' allows me to stay with clients in their moments of deepest despair with enormous compassion, empathy and trust in the process.

I've benefited from therapy in really challenging times in my life. I've found it helpful to have support to understand dynamics and to simply have space to focus on particular issues and get...

I've benefited from therapy in really challenging times in my life. I've found it helpful to have support to understand dynamics and to simply have space to focus on particular issues and get perspective. I've also often found therapy challenging to access due to barriers like some psychologists wanting to jump straight into assessments and personal history before trust has been built - that really doesn't work for me so it's not how I work in my practice. I've also benefited a lot myself from alternative practices like kinesiology and yoga and I understand an holistic approach is often needed.

Firstly, I am immensely grateful and fortunate to live in a world where therapy has been an option for me. It is a privilege it is to have access to such valuable support and guidance, especially...

Firstly, I am immensely grateful and fortunate to live in a world where therapy has been an option for me. It is a privilege it is to have access to such valuable support and guidance, especially considering that many people in our world do not have this option available to them. It is with a heart full of gratitude that I respond to this question, knowing that therapy has played a profound role in my journey of healing and personal growth. It has been an avenue that I have turned to whenever I have been faced with a difficult decision and need some help to untangle my doubts and confusion. It has been a place of safety and stabiltiy for those times when I have become stuck, or stubborn and unable to see past limiting beliefs and self-defeating obstacles. Therapy is not a destination but a way of moving forward. It is process that opens so many doors of understanding, recognition and self-awareness. Therapy has, step-by-step, moved me towards a version of myself that is always uncovering and transforming hidden, subconscious layers of peace and contentment. It is a journey I wish for us all.

In essence, it has given me a deeper insight into understanding myself and other people which has led me to have a healthier and kinder relationship with myself. This helps me have a better...

In essence, it has given me a deeper insight into understanding myself and other people which has led me to have a healthier and kinder relationship with myself. This helps me have a better relationship with others and the world around me and helps me navigate life's countless challenges. It has improved my quality of life in so many ways.

It’s changed everything. The biggest shift has been in my relationship with myself. I have a sense of internal stability now — an anchor that I didn’t have before. A connection to myself...

It’s changed everything. The biggest shift has been in my relationship with myself. I have a sense of internal stability now — an anchor that I didn’t have before. A connection to myself and my body that feels steady, rather than something I have to constantly search for. There was a time where being in my body felt overwhelming… so I spent a lot of time disconnected from it. Now, I can stay with myself in a way that feels safe. That’s probably the biggest difference. I’m able to notice what’s happening inside me — sensations, emotions, reactions — without being completely taken over by them. There’s more space. Where I used to react quickly or intensely, there’s now a pause… and with that, a choice in how I respond. I don’t rely on the outside world in the same way I used to for validation or a sense of safety. And if I do notice that pattern coming in, I can see it, understand it, and work with it — rather than getting caught in it. I also have access now to things that didn’t feel possible before. Real joy. A sense of peace. Connection — both with myself and with other people. And a capacity to be more of who I am, without it feeling unsafe to do so. It’s not that life is perfect… but it’s very different. There’s a steadiness now that wasn’t there before. That steadiness is what allows me to sit with whatever someone brings into the room. Not needing to fix it, judge it, or turn away from it… just being with it, as it is — and responding to what’s needed in that moment.

Therapy has made a great difference in my life. I've experienced depression and anxiety myself, so I understand how difficult they can be. Over time, I’ve developed helpful strategies and skills...

Therapy has made a great difference in my life. I've experienced depression and anxiety myself, so I understand how difficult they can be. Over time, I’ve developed helpful strategies and skills from having therapy myself, drawing from cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and other psychological approaches. Treating myself with compassion and kindness has been very helpful and developing a 'perfect nurturer' for myself.

I've been doing my own therapeutic work consistently for over 18 years. I continue to do my own therapy - I practice what I preach. Early in my adult life, I tried therapy but couldn't find the...

I've been doing my own therapeutic work consistently for over 18 years. I continue to do my own therapy - I practice what I preach. Early in my adult life, I tried therapy but couldn't find the right fit. A sex therapist once told me my partner and I were playing cat and mouse around our sex life. I wasn't ready to hear it then - but in retrospect, she was right. The real shift came during the breakdown of my marriage. I worked with a somatic psychotherapist who helped me understand how disconnected I was from my own feelings, how burnt out I had become. She helped me see the gender dynamics playing out in my relationship and my workplace. And she helped me understand how early experiences of sexual abuse were affecting me as a woman and sexual being. That work was profound. It changed everything - so much so that I decided to become a therapist myself. I've continued therapy through a process-oriented lens for another eight years, and it continues to deepen my connection with my deeper self and dreams and my capacity as a woman, mother, partner, activist and as a practitioner.

Therapy has made a meaningful difference in my life by helping me better understand myself, my patterns, and what really matters to me. I’ve had periods of more intensive therapy to work through...

Therapy has made a meaningful difference in my life by helping me better understand myself, my patterns, and what really matters to me. I’ve had periods of more intensive therapy to work through traumatic experiences, which were incredibly important in my healing. At the same time, I’ve come to see therapy as one of many tools I keep in my tool belt, as something I can return to when I want to explore an issue, get something off my chest, or gain clarity. It’s supported me in navigating challenges with more awareness and self-compassion, rather than judgement. It’s also shaped how I relate to others, communicate more openly, and sit with difficult emotions without feeling overwhelmed. Both personally and professionally, it’s deepened my empathy and strengthened my belief in the value of having a space where you can be heard and understood.

Therapy has helped me notice and understand my own patterns, particularly the links between thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. It’s supported me in making small but meaningful changes in how I...

Therapy has helped me notice and understand my own patterns, particularly the links between thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. It’s supported me in making small but meaningful changes in how I respond to challenges, rather than getting stuck in unhelpful cycles. That experience has shaped my approach as a therapist, as I value combining insight with practical change, and creating a space where people feel safe enough to explore both.

Therapy has allowed me to access a space to process events in my own life, that would otherwise not have been available to me. It has allowed me to process, and to reflect.

Therapy has allowed me to access a space to process events in my own life, that would otherwise not have been available to me. It has allowed me to process, and to reflect.

Therapy has helped me become kinder to myself, more aware of my blind spots, to develop the ability to hold myself accountable, to practice humility and to learn to accept feedback more graciously....

Therapy has helped me become kinder to myself, more aware of my blind spots, to develop the ability to hold myself accountable, to practice humility and to learn to accept feedback more graciously. Past experiences of receiving bad therapy have reminded me of how vulnerable clients are when they come to therapy, the courage involved in taking the risk to come to therapy and never taking this for granted.

Therapy has been a meaningful support to me at various points in my life, particularly during times of challenge, transition, and growth. Having thoughtful therapeutic and supervisory support has...

Therapy has been a meaningful support to me at various points in my life, particularly during times of challenge, transition, and growth. Having thoughtful therapeutic and supervisory support has helped me clarify my values, navigate difficult experiences, and face fears that can sometimes stand in the way of living more fully. These experiences deepen my respect for the courage it takes for clients to enter therapy and engage in this work.

From the skills learned at Lifeline in crisis support, to counselling studies and Hakomi, I feel I have immeasurably improved my self-awareness and ability to down-regulate when heightened or the...

From the skills learned at Lifeline in crisis support, to counselling studies and Hakomi, I feel I have immeasurably improved my self-awareness and ability to down-regulate when heightened or the going gets tough, and to more effectively understand, respect and express my needs. Always up for new skills and knowledge, I know have much more to learn, and a significant amount of this will come from interacting with the clients themselves during consultations. More specifically, I have become a better, more active listener, and hope I can validate others' perspectives even if I disagree. In an increasingly fragmented and polarised world, these have become increasingly important. Outside of family and work, finding common ground with strangers in order to problem solve through conversation, is something I'll continue to work on.

Overall therapy has supported me to love myself more. Self-love is at the core of all the amazing help I have received from therapy and all of the other ongoing training, workshops, self development...

Overall therapy has supported me to love myself more. Self-love is at the core of all the amazing help I have received from therapy and all of the other ongoing training, workshops, self development courses, body and movement based methods I learn and experience from. The specific help over the years has included: increase in confidence; helpful new skills in relating; insights into issues and problems; learning from dreams and other mysterious experiences; support to follow what is right for myself; healing from past pain including trauma, shame, guilt, grief and loss; trusting my body; finding new attitudes to approach problems'; and accepting and loving all the parts of who I am (this is ongoing of course! Ha ha!)

Therapy has made a significant impact on my life. It has helped me process complex issues and work through the challenges that arise. I believe I am a much improved version of the person I was when I...

Therapy has made a significant impact on my life. It has helped me process complex issues and work through the challenges that arise. I believe I am a much improved version of the person I was when I first started my therapy journey. I feel like I'm a better partner, father, and friend. I'm more equipped to manage new challenges as they come. Overall, I experience a greater sense of happiness and stability in my life. Therapy has given me the tools to navigate difficulties with confidence, and that has made all the difference.

While I think I am a work in progress. I think both being a therapist and having my own therapy, I have personally benefited and like to believe I am a more informed, mature, kinder and wiser person...

While I think I am a work in progress. I think both being a therapist and having my own therapy, I have personally benefited and like to believe I am a more informed, mature, kinder and wiser person as a result. I believe in authenticity and connection. I strive to live a decent life with my motto being to serve others.

My own therapy has been life changing; dare I say lifesaving. Therapies with others reaffirms my faith in the healing potential within all of us.

My own therapy has been life changing; dare I say lifesaving. Therapies with others reaffirms my faith in the healing potential within all of us.

Therapy has made me a better person because it has allowed me to embrace all parts of my self, including the parts that I learnt at an early age to suppress or disavow. It provided a safe place where...

Therapy has made me a better person because it has allowed me to embrace all parts of my self, including the parts that I learnt at an early age to suppress or disavow. It provided a safe place where I felt understood and supported, which in turn led me to want to explore the rationale behind the behaviours and relationships that I was choosing in my life, which invariably were not helpful in attaining the joy that was my birthright. Through a development of my understanding, I was able to further develop my self-reflective and relational capacities. In becoming more accepting of myself, I am able to empathise with others and to practice non-judgement, be a better listener, as well as provide support for others without losing myself in the process. I am able to ask for and accept support, and see self-care as being a necessity rather than an indulgence. As a young child, I learnt at an early age that approval from my parents through being a high achiever was paramount to my sense of well-being. Like many, I became a driven by perfectionism, which later in life, invariably led to frustration, because that perfection could not be achieved. Through therapy, I have come to accept and like who I am, warts and all, and no longer needing to seek validation of my self-worth from external sources, but from within. I am able to have more choice in my life. I am grateful for so much more, and as a result, can allow myself to experience a fuller range of emotions and feelings, and to see that as healthy. I am able to experience each day with whatever it brings, acknowledging the past without regrets, and looking forward to whatever may arise in the future, learning from each experience, whilst remaining true to myself and to my values and beliefs.

Self-reflection is an important part of practicing as a psychologist both in my work and in my personal life, and has helped me to always ensure I am being an effective practitioner whilst being...

Self-reflection is an important part of practicing as a psychologist both in my work and in my personal life, and has helped me to always ensure I am being an effective practitioner whilst being self-caring. There is also a lot to learn both professionally and personally from the people I work with.

Therapy has made a huge difference in my life personally and professionally. My experience is that awareness, self regulation and connection to self and others leads to agency and authentic self...

Therapy has made a huge difference in my life personally and professionally. My experience is that awareness, self regulation and connection to self and others leads to agency and authentic self leadership.

Therapy gave me something I didn’t realise I needed: a space where I didn’t have to hold everything together. For much of my life, I learned to be capable, attentive, and tuned in to others. I...

Therapy gave me something I didn’t realise I needed: a space where I didn’t have to hold everything together. For much of my life, I learned to be capable, attentive, and tuned in to others. I could read the room, support those around me, and keep going, even when it came at a cost to myself. Beneath that strength was a quiet disconnection from my own feelings and needs. By my twenties, the strain began to surface. I felt anxious, depleted, and unsure how to make sense of what was happening inside me. Therapy didn’t offer quick answers, but it offered something far more meaningful: a place where I could slow down and simply be. I didn’t have to perform or manage anything. I was met with presence and care, and that steadiness made a difference. Over time, I began to hear myself again. I learned to notice what I was feeling, understand the patterns shaping my life, and respond with more honesty and compassion. It wasn’t always easy, but it was grounding. That process became a pathway back to myself. That experience now informs how I sit with others in therapy. I don’t aim to fix or advise, but to offer a space where people can be met with care, curiosity, and respect. A space where you don’t need to be anything other than who you are, and where that is enough to begin.

I think I am calmer and more grounded as a result of trying to 'practice what I preach'! Being a therapist has helped me remain connected to wider society and helps me remain empathic and...

I think I am calmer and more grounded as a result of trying to 'practice what I preach'! Being a therapist has helped me remain connected to wider society and helps me remain empathic and connected to the issues of many, varied people in our society. It really is a privileged position to do what we do.

I am deeply grateful to the number of therapists who have been part of my journey. Each has provided me with a space to grow and explore in safety for a time. Not every experience is perfect, nor is...

I am deeply grateful to the number of therapists who have been part of my journey. Each has provided me with a space to grow and explore in safety for a time. Not every experience is perfect, nor is every therapist perfect, but each one gave me space to work out the story and meaning of my life at that time so I could carry on.

I use this modality for my own inner work and meditations and also often have swap sessions with colleagues. I also regularly get my own therapy. This has helped my life immensely.

I use this modality for my own inner work and meditations and also often have swap sessions with colleagues. I also regularly get my own therapy. This has helped my life immensely.

Therapy has helped me work through personal trauma, develop greater emotional balance, and discover a deeper sense of inner peace. It has been a profound and ongoing process—one that continues to...

Therapy has helped me work through personal trauma, develop greater emotional balance, and discover a deeper sense of inner peace. It has been a profound and ongoing process—one that continues to shape how I live, relate, and work with others. This lived experience strongly informs the compassion and presence I bring into the therapy room.

It has taught me so much about myself. Every client teaches me new things and I grow every time I meet new people. I have become more resilient, calm and open minded.

It has taught me so much about myself. Every client teaches me new things and I grow every time I meet new people. I have become more resilient, calm and open minded.

It’s helped me name what I feel, soften what I carry, and stay curious. Therapy reminds me that being human is hard — and worth it.

It’s helped me name what I feel, soften what I carry, and stay curious. Therapy reminds me that being human is hard — and worth it.

I enjoy the opportunity to attend therapy myself and reflect on my own growth, struggles and times of 'stuckness'. I find it's so valuable to have another person's perspective to help me check my own...

I enjoy the opportunity to attend therapy myself and reflect on my own growth, struggles and times of 'stuckness'. I find it's so valuable to have another person's perspective to help me check my own blindspots.

Self-Understanding and Insight, Emotional Regulation, Integration of Mind, Body, and Emotion

Self-Understanding and Insight, Emotional Regulation, Integration of Mind, Body, and Emotion

It has been an immense privilege to be able to listen to people talk about their deepest yearnings and their true thoughts and feelings. I have learnt that we have so much in common, we all need love,...

It has been an immense privilege to be able to listen to people talk about their deepest yearnings and their true thoughts and feelings. I have learnt that we have so much in common, we all need love, connection, community and purpose.

Both receiving and providing therapy has helped my life. Receiving therapy has enabled me to identify blind spots and make connections I couldn't see on my own. Providing therapy to others made my...

Both receiving and providing therapy has helped my life. Receiving therapy has enabled me to identify blind spots and make connections I couldn't see on my own. Providing therapy to others made my life meaningful; when I see my clients improving their mental health, and achieving their desired goals, I feel part of their journey and success.

Absolutely. I am a great advocate for therapy because it has changed my life! The insights, support, clarity it has given me as I have had the opportunity to explore my challenges, concerns,...

Absolutely. I am a great advocate for therapy because it has changed my life! The insights, support, clarity it has given me as I have had the opportunity to explore my challenges, concerns, spirituality, hopes and dreams (literally!) has enabled me to know myself in ways that have allowed me to make different choices that have changed my life direction. It has increased my compassion, open-mindedness, and the quality of my relationships to mention just a few benefits!

Personally therapy has been foundational for me. I can't believe I am the same person who first had a counselling session at university as an 18 year-old. That was 40 years ago! I wish I could go back...

Personally therapy has been foundational for me. I can't believe I am the same person who first had a counselling session at university as an 18 year-old. That was 40 years ago! I wish I could go back and speak to that girl and give her a hug and tell her she was great just the way she was!

I’ve personally experienced the power of therapy, from CBT to more recent work with hypnotherapy, as part of my own journey of self-development. Alongside that, practices like yoga, reiki, and...

I’ve personally experienced the power of therapy, from CBT to more recent work with hypnotherapy, as part of my own journey of self-development. Alongside that, practices like yoga, reiki, and meditation have been an important part of my life for many years. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that real change comes from consistency and commitment. It’s not just about what you know—it’s about how you apply it in your daily life in a meaningful, practical way. Sustainable change takes practice, patience, and dedication. So, as you step into this journey, the question isn’t just about what you want to change—it’s about how ready you are to commit to the process. How motivated are you to create the life you want?

As a counsellor, I continue in my own therapy. Life challenges continue and the listening ear, kindness, compassion and wisdom of a professional external to my life helps me to put struggles into...

As a counsellor, I continue in my own therapy. Life challenges continue and the listening ear, kindness, compassion and wisdom of a professional external to my life helps me to put struggles into perspective and work a way forward through each storm. I have (and do) benefitted more than I can express.

My own experience of therapy has been transformative. I came to see that I am not simply my thoughts, but the aware space in which thoughts, emotions, and words arise and move. Individual work helped...

My own experience of therapy has been transformative. I came to see that I am not simply my thoughts, but the aware space in which thoughts, emotions, and words arise and move. Individual work helped me recognise and soften long-held patterns, while experiential and body-based approaches opened a deeper connection to myself. Group processes showed me the healing power of being seen and of seeing others in their truth. These experiences continue to shape the way I meet clients — with respect for the courage it takes to enter therapy and trust in the changes it can bring.

It has changed my life. One of the particular aspects about Process Work diplomate training is that it is very rigorous about working on yourself - you get assessed on it, and it has a really high...

It has changed my life. One of the particular aspects about Process Work diplomate training is that it is very rigorous about working on yourself - you get assessed on it, and it has a really high number of therapy hours you yourself need to undertake as a client. Because of that training, I can embrace and accept different parts of myself and more than that, use them when I need. I know deeply that I am resourced enough to be able to face and work through what comes in life, regardless of how challenging it is, which brings with it a kind of freedom and trust.

Therapy has brought a lot of my unconscious behaviour and thoughts to the conscious level; increasing my self awareness. With that increased level of self awareness comes more choice in my life to...

Therapy has brought a lot of my unconscious behaviour and thoughts to the conscious level; increasing my self awareness. With that increased level of self awareness comes more choice in my life to stop before automatically reacting and pause. With more choice comes the ability to act with more kindness and compassion towards myself and others. Therapy has also taught me that everyone, myself included, struggles with something in their life. That knowledge has given me a great level of comfort. and connection with my fellow humans.

Oh I love it. I cannot see me doing anything else now.

Oh I love it. I cannot see me doing anything else now.

For me, therapy has been like a great life tune-up, helping me pause, reflect, and grow into a better version of myself. It’s supported me to understand my patterns, manage stress more effectively,...

For me, therapy has been like a great life tune-up, helping me pause, reflect, and grow into a better version of myself. It’s supported me to understand my patterns, manage stress more effectively, and stay grounded through challenging times. It’s also helped me shift from striving to 'fix' things, to accepting myself more fully while still wanting to grow. Therapy has given me space towards feeling more content, fulfilled, and aligned with what matters most. It’s something I return to when I need clarity or feel off track, like a reset for my mind, body, and emotional wellbeing.

Psychoanalysis, Jungian analysis, Hillmanian analysis, buddhist-oriented psychotherapy: these have all been extremely important in me finding my way. From a very idealistic young man to a much more...

Psychoanalysis, Jungian analysis, Hillmanian analysis, buddhist-oriented psychotherapy: these have all been extremely important in me finding my way. From a very idealistic young man to a much more grounded, reflective participant in life in all its facets - as a husband, father, psychotherapist, artist.

It continues to make me a better human being….

It continues to make me a better human being….

Learning about psychology, counselling and psychotherapy has changed the way I see the world, and people in it. I am yet to meet a person who I would write off. Everyone can get help. I find, if we...

Learning about psychology, counselling and psychotherapy has changed the way I see the world, and people in it. I am yet to meet a person who I would write off. Everyone can get help. I find, if we raise enough awareness, there is always a reason behind a behaviour; a need seeking fulfilment and most often - somewhere in there - is a small child seeking validation, affirmation and attunement. We can find the why through exploration of the how, here and now. I have been a client in therapy, having had hundreds of hours personally in therapy. In addition, I've undertaken an academic masters and completed a published literature review referencing over 70 sources about trauma, culture and attachment theory. Additionally, I receive expert supervision and ongoing training each year.

Therapy has helped me better understand and appreciate myself, but also be more accountable and genuine with myself in areas in which I still need to grow and learn.

Therapy has helped me better understand and appreciate myself, but also be more accountable and genuine with myself in areas in which I still need to grow and learn.

In every way. It's made me compassionate, empathetic, less judgemental, less viciously self critical, less shameful, more confident, happy with myself, a better partner and mother etc. etc. etc. It's...

In every way. It's made me compassionate, empathetic, less judgemental, less viciously self critical, less shameful, more confident, happy with myself, a better partner and mother etc. etc. etc. It's helped me find purpose, direction and meaning.

I feel calmer, more connected and centered in myself.

I feel calmer, more connected and centered in myself.

My own personal therapy has given me a greater understanding of, and compassion for myself. It has increased my capacity to parent well, understand my children's needs, and also made me a more patient...

My own personal therapy has given me a greater understanding of, and compassion for myself. It has increased my capacity to parent well, understand my children's needs, and also made me a more patient and compassionate person on the whole. As I have worked through my own life challenges, it has also made me more emotionally available, and more understanding and accepting, of others in my life.

Being in therapy has supported me to understand what makes me tick! I can finally face those thoughts and feelings that I used to hide away from, and this has improved the relationships I have with...

Being in therapy has supported me to understand what makes me tick! I can finally face those thoughts and feelings that I used to hide away from, and this has improved the relationships I have with myself and my family and the people around me.

Yes, definitely! Doing ongoing personal therapy and self-exploration is something I really value. It keeps me grounded, reminds me how far I’ve come, and shows me there’s always more room to grow....

Yes, definitely! Doing ongoing personal therapy and self-exploration is something I really value. It keeps me grounded, reminds me how far I’ve come, and shows me there’s always more room to grow. Plus, it gives me a real sense of what it’s like to be on the other side of the therapy room, which helps me connect with my clients in a more genuine way.

It has made me more self aware, as well as more empathetic about the human condition and what people go through in life.

It has made me more self aware, as well as more empathetic about the human condition and what people go through in life.

Having one's own personal therapy is a great leveller. It fosters humility and makes one more appreciative of the unique situations and heroic - and not so heroic - efforts of others. Therapy puts you...

Having one's own personal therapy is a great leveller. It fosters humility and makes one more appreciative of the unique situations and heroic - and not so heroic - efforts of others. Therapy puts you in touch with your own vulnerability as well as your strengths. Clients usually find it heartening that I seem to 'know', in a deep experiential sense, something of what it is like to be 'on the other side of the couch' - so to speak. Overall, therapy has made me more receptive of others and other points of view. It has broadened and deepened my understanding of life and interpersonal relations and enhanced my understanding of myself as a human being.

I no longer judge people. Through my training, I am now always focused on understanding a person's primary, underlying emotions, and the socio-cultural environment pressures they are facing.

I no longer judge people. Through my training, I am now always focused on understanding a person's primary, underlying emotions, and the socio-cultural environment pressures they are facing.

I have infinitely more understanding and compassion for the behaviours I see and hear about in people. Therapeutic work has shown me and allowed me to experience that we're all in the same boat....

I have infinitely more understanding and compassion for the behaviours I see and hear about in people. Therapeutic work has shown me and allowed me to experience that we're all in the same boat. People might look like they've got it all together, but everyone has pain. Everyone has hurt. Everyone has bad days where it's a struggle to get through, but they show up and do their best anyway. I have a lot of respect for that.

I am a lot more aware of myself the good and not so good. I am more accepting of all of myself. I am more patient and kind to myself and others. I am able to accept difference without taking it...

I am a lot more aware of myself the good and not so good. I am more accepting of all of myself. I am more patient and kind to myself and others. I am able to accept difference without taking it personally. I am more comfortable with uncertainty and that sometimes somethings are un-resolvable and need just to be accepted as they are without completion. My relationships with my husband, children and friends are more mature and considered. My communication skills have improved and I am able to say clearly what I need and speak up for myself. Most importantly I am more discerning of my choices. What is right for me? What is wrong for me? What do I need right now? How will my wants and needs impact others? How do I manage that?

I try to be more mindful of others, more accepting, more patient with loved ones eg partner, friends and family and I aim to foster self-worth in my son.

I try to be more mindful of others, more accepting, more patient with loved ones eg partner, friends and family and I aim to foster self-worth in my son.

My personal therapy helps me to identify response and relationship patterns that are hindering me from giving and receiving love. Like everyone, I am a work in progress.

My personal therapy helps me to identify response and relationship patterns that are hindering me from giving and receiving love. Like everyone, I am a work in progress.

I am aware of how my history effects me today. Having struggled with my own past, I have great empathy for people who are trying to do the same. This makes me a better counsellor as I really have a...

I am aware of how my history effects me today. Having struggled with my own past, I have great empathy for people who are trying to do the same. This makes me a better counsellor as I really have a sense of the great journey a person has undertaken just to walk through the door and sit with me

Therapy has allowed me to develop a deeper understanding of human behavior and emotions, which I can apply to my personal life and relationships. My work also encourages self-reflection and...

Therapy has allowed me to develop a deeper understanding of human behavior and emotions, which I can apply to my personal life and relationships. My work also encourages self-reflection and self-awareness, which helps me maintain a healthy work-life balance and improve my own mental health. Overall, being a therapist allows me to continuously grow and learn, which ultimately benefits both myself and my clients.

It is a privilege to hear people stories and sharing this process has been inspiring . It has encouraged me to appreciate those around me and connect with values I hold as important and the culture...

It is a privilege to hear people stories and sharing this process has been inspiring . It has encouraged me to appreciate those around me and connect with values I hold as important and the culture and community that sustains me. It has reminded me to not make assumptions and be curious and surprised by people and allows me to examine power relationships and seek social justice.

Therapy has made me a better person because it has given me knowledge and understanding of our patterning and our programming. Being a therapist requires ongoing professional development. I take this...

Therapy has made me a better person because it has given me knowledge and understanding of our patterning and our programming. Being a therapist requires ongoing professional development. I take this seriously, and it keeps me up to date not only with industry standards, but with new developments too. My knowledge is always up to date, and ready for more learning.

Yes Therapy combined with my own spiritual practice . Life itself being the ultimate spiritual teacher.

Yes Therapy combined with my own spiritual practice . Life itself being the ultimate spiritual teacher.

It has allowed me to have more clarity about what is important to me as a person and how I want to live my life. By having more compassion for myself I have achieved a lovely work/life balance where I...

It has allowed me to have more clarity about what is important to me as a person and how I want to live my life. By having more compassion for myself I have achieved a lovely work/life balance where I can devote my time and energy to the people and activities that touch my heart and make it sing

It has, in the words of St Francis given me The serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. t

It has, in the words of St Francis given me The serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. t

This is a BIG question! I could write for pages about how therapy and being a therapist has helped me, but if I had to narrow it right down to a few key things, it would be; 1. It helps me care for...

This is a BIG question! I could write for pages about how therapy and being a therapist has helped me, but if I had to narrow it right down to a few key things, it would be; 1. It helps me care for myself 2. It helps me be responsible for myself 3. It helps me be connected to others and the world 4. It helps me lead a rich, meaningful life

By having a safe environment for true self-reflection and a new way of looking at things, therapy is a place for personal growth that provides a new sense of calm and control.

By having a safe environment for true self-reflection and a new way of looking at things, therapy is a place for personal growth that provides a new sense of calm and control.

I think I am still trying to be a better person. In this field one never stops learning. Therapists are human and have flaws like everyone else. I am constantly reminded of my own flaws when I meet...

I think I am still trying to be a better person. In this field one never stops learning. Therapists are human and have flaws like everyone else. I am constantly reminded of my own flaws when I meet other people struggling - we are all the same. Having said all of that though, I am far less judgemental than perhaps others - therapy gives me good insight into why people do what they do - most people are fundamentally good - they are trying to do the best they can. And of course I have good empathy which is great for my friends and family but can be taxing for me personally at times.

I don't view anyone as 'broken'. I can clearly see that there are parts of us that have been wounded, and that we act and react from these parts sometimes. The aim of our system is not to be terrible,...

I don't view anyone as 'broken'. I can clearly see that there are parts of us that have been wounded, and that we act and react from these parts sometimes. The aim of our system is not to be terrible, it is to keep from feeling the pain over and over again, so it works to protect us, in whatever way it has come up with. My aim is to find what the hurt parts want to say, and needs to share. Once this happens, the system can start to shift.

I regularly use the tools that I share with clients in my own inner world, especially when triggered or if I am feeling off-centered. They are incredibly powerful in assisting to access the deeper...

I regularly use the tools that I share with clients in my own inner world, especially when triggered or if I am feeling off-centered. They are incredibly powerful in assisting to access the deeper subconscious mind, which records all experiences, yet many of these memories cannot be accessed using the conscious mind. Once accessed, these can be acknowledged and with work, transformed into healthier thoughts, belief systems and behaviour patterns - as the past unwittingly influences the present until it is healed. Furthermore, the techniques provide a life raft when triggered - whether it be through distraction techniques [so you don't get stuck in the pain], or if you are in it and you can't get out, they enable a person to release the pain as this needs to move out of your field, so that higher frequencies [of thoughts and emotions] can take their place. This is the alchemy of psychotherapy, where we transform our pain into higher states of mind.

As a result of my own healing journey I have much more compassion and understanding for others, am less I-centred, I work with purpose and seldom feel exhausted or overwhelmed as I have much better...

As a result of my own healing journey I have much more compassion and understanding for others, am less I-centred, I work with purpose and seldom feel exhausted or overwhelmed as I have much better boundaries since undertaking psychotherapy. I have learned to really look after myself and make loving choices around how I live. I seldom react to people or events and am generally aware and connected with my thoughts and feelings. I feel so much more joy and purpose in life and appreciate all that the world around me offers - in the city, the country, the night sky and the ocean.

Engaging in creative arts therapy has helped me to become a more reflective person, overcome obstacles, experience healing and increase insight to myself, those around me and how I respond to my...

Engaging in creative arts therapy has helped me to become a more reflective person, overcome obstacles, experience healing and increase insight to myself, those around me and how I respond to my community / environment.

It has given me a rich insight into my own family dynamics and made me acutely aware of my own core beliefs and values. It has given me a deep understanding of everyones unique qualities and taught me...

It has given me a rich insight into my own family dynamics and made me acutely aware of my own core beliefs and values. It has given me a deep understanding of everyones unique qualities and taught me to accept what is.

Therapy provides a rich opportunity for self reflection and growth. It is able to hold us during times of intense stress. I value the privilege I have to work alongside families and support them...

Therapy provides a rich opportunity for self reflection and growth. It is able to hold us during times of intense stress. I value the privilege I have to work alongside families and support them during challenging times.

Therapy has made me a better person through greater self-awareness, emotional understanding and awareness and also resolution of past issues.

Therapy has made me a better person through greater self-awareness, emotional understanding and awareness and also resolution of past issues.

Engaging in my own therapy helps me gain personal insight and self-awareness, which is crucial for maintaining a healthy therapeutic relationship with my clients. Secondly, it allows me to process my...

Engaging in my own therapy helps me gain personal insight and self-awareness, which is crucial for maintaining a healthy therapeutic relationship with my clients. Secondly, it allows me to process my own emotions and experiences, preventing burnout and enhances my ability to empathise and support others. Lastly, personal therapy helps me continually refine my skills and deepen my understanding of therapeutic techniques and approaches.

Overcoming poor self-esteem as well as fully returning to my body. Both allowed me to live the life I always dreamed of having: A functioning and loving family/ still having fun exploring new things...

Overcoming poor self-esteem as well as fully returning to my body. Both allowed me to live the life I always dreamed of having: A functioning and loving family/ still having fun exploring new things such as becoming an extra in film and advertisement, playing music and simply feeling alive and supporting others to feel alive too.

Therapy makes me a better person because I have more empathy and understanding of emotion and recognize that we are all quite vulnerable to change. It has allowed me to work through my stuff and to...

Therapy makes me a better person because I have more empathy and understanding of emotion and recognize that we are all quite vulnerable to change. It has allowed me to work through my stuff and to remember that nothing stays the same......

It has helped me to develop resilience, self compassion and compassion toward others. I have developed a broader perspective on the complexities and strengths we have as humans.

It has helped me to develop resilience, self compassion and compassion toward others. I have developed a broader perspective on the complexities and strengths we have as humans.

Over the last 24 years since my first therapy session, I have completely transformed myself and my life. I don't know if I would use the words, better person, but I can say that I am more in love...

Over the last 24 years since my first therapy session, I have completely transformed myself and my life. I don't know if I would use the words, better person, but I can say that I am more in love with my life and filled with more mindfulness, compassion and gratitude than I ever have been before. I have developed a deeper self-awareness and emotional intelligence. I have also developed a deeper sense of confidence, freedom from fear, self compassion and resilience. This has facilitated the journey that has led me to being on purpose in my life and facilitating the same support that to others that has so gracefully led me here today.

I have been a client, practice as a therapist, supervise other therapists and also train counsellors and therapists. Each of these experiences provides an opportunity for me to learn by reflecting...

I have been a client, practice as a therapist, supervise other therapists and also train counsellors and therapists. Each of these experiences provides an opportunity for me to learn by reflecting upon myself and life. These different lenses into therapy help me to I understand what it is like to have difficulties, and to also work with them over time towards improvement. I think it is important that any therapist you might wish to see has some insight into suffering, and not just from a text book. The research (e.g. Norcross) shows that most therapists deeply value their own therapy, as do I. This is the real seat and foundation of therapist learning more so than any training - as it has been for me. Importantly, therapy is not a one sided deal. It takes two. Therapists help their clients to change. Clients are also remarkable and resourceful people too. So clients can inspire their therapists too. It is a reciprocal process sometimes, something the text books don't often mention. It is however incumbent upon therapists to manage our selves so as not to adversely interfere with your progress.

Therapy has empowered me in my own healing journey and enriched my family relationships. It clarifies and keeps me on track of my values and goals when sneaky captialism and colonialisation makes me...

Therapy has empowered me in my own healing journey and enriched my family relationships. It clarifies and keeps me on track of my values and goals when sneaky captialism and colonialisation makes me feel bad about myself. I used go weekly or fortnightly for years, now I'm down to monthly/ad hoc.

To become a qualified psychotherapist it is mandatory that you also receive psychotherapy. In part, this is so you can understand the vulnerability that comes along with opening yourself up to another...

To become a qualified psychotherapist it is mandatory that you also receive psychotherapy. In part, this is so you can understand the vulnerability that comes along with opening yourself up to another person. I found this to be one of my most humbling experiences. To sit in front of another human and remove my mask or my shield and share some of the parts of me that are so deep and vulnerable and to experience the courage I needed to be able to do that. Those experiences have enabled me to understand and respect what my clients go through in order to share with me some aspects of their life or themselves that is very difficult and to do so without judgement and or criticism.

Therapy for me has bee a great journey of self-discovery. Through it I have gained more self awareness and composure. I have experienced relief from issues such as anxiety and low self-esteem, and to...

Therapy for me has bee a great journey of self-discovery. Through it I have gained more self awareness and composure. I have experienced relief from issues such as anxiety and low self-esteem, and to have healing of past traumas. I have learned to be more self-reliant. More importantly it has been a journey of becoming more empowered and able to be more useful in the world. And still more importantly for me personally, it has given me the opportunity to find that the very different aspects or dynamics in my nature can co-exist productively. Overall, I think I am more present to myself and those I'm close to. I'm more realistic and flexible, and manage my practical affairs better. I handle stressful situations better than I used to. And going through therapy has made it possible for me to be a therapist to myself, and of course to have the great privilege of working closely with others with awareness and skill, to assist them where they are most troubled.