Psychotherapists and Counsellors Answer your Questions

It builds self-awareness, which allows us to choose how we relate to ourselves and others. Being able to hear how we talk to ourselves is necessary for listening to ourselves and improving our...

It builds self-awareness, which allows us to choose how we relate to ourselves and others. Being able to hear how we talk to ourselves is necessary for listening to ourselves and improving our situations.

Firstly, I am immensely grateful and fortunate to live in a world where therapy has been an option for me. It is a privilege it is to have access to such valuable support and guidance, especially...

Firstly, I am immensely grateful and fortunate to live in a world where therapy has been an option for me. It is a privilege it is to have access to such valuable support and guidance, especially considering that many people in our world do not have this option available to them. It is with a heart full of gratitude that I respond to this question, knowing that therapy has played a profound role in my journey of healing and personal growth. It has been an avenue that I have turned to whenever I have been faced with a difficult decision and need some help to untangle my doubts and confusion. It has been a place of safety and stabiltiy for those times when I have become stuck, or stubborn and unable to see past limiting beliefs and self-defeating obstacles. Therapy is not a destination but a way of moving forward. It is process that opens so many doors of understanding, recognition and self-awareness. Therapy has, step-by-step, moved me towards a version of myself that is always uncovering and transforming hidden, subconscious layers of peace and contentment. It is a journey I wish for us all.

Therapy calls me to grow, reflect, learn, be honest with myself and others and go ever deeper into the complexity of the human experience. It continues to open my mind and perspective on the world and...

Therapy calls me to grow, reflect, learn, be honest with myself and others and go ever deeper into the complexity of the human experience. It continues to open my mind and perspective on the world and people's incredible resilience and wisdom in the midst of trauma and pain. Therapy calls me to integrity in all my relationships - at work, home and in life. Therapy teaches me humility - to accept and see myself as I humanly am - a fellow human travelling alongside other humans.

Yes, I believe it has happened. When I went to see my therapist, I realised that my head was full from all of the issues I was dealing with. Talking to someone let me see things a lot more clearly. It...

Yes, I believe it has happened. When I went to see my therapist, I realised that my head was full from all of the issues I was dealing with. Talking to someone let me see things a lot more clearly. It took a lot of effort, but I was willing to put in the time to improve myself. By talking through my problems and working on myself, I gained the confidence to let go of the past and move forward.

Helping others achieve healing & find confidence & clarity in their life choices is my guiding purpose. Therapy provides a safe & structured way to offer compassion & find a deeper meaning behind the...

Helping others achieve healing & find confidence & clarity in their life choices is my guiding purpose. Therapy provides a safe & structured way to offer compassion & find a deeper meaning behind the human suffering we all experience.

I now consult myself when making decisions in life, I have emotional agility and can go with the flow. I also am able to process difficult situations and sit with difficult feelings. Most importantly...

I now consult myself when making decisions in life, I have emotional agility and can go with the flow. I also am able to process difficult situations and sit with difficult feelings. Most importantly I have support in my life to do this both inwardly and outwardly.

As a teenager, I was diagnosed clinically depressive and for several years I was prescribed ever-increasing dosages of anti-depressant drugs. Eventually I moved to London where I discovered forms of...

As a teenager, I was diagnosed clinically depressive and for several years I was prescribed ever-increasing dosages of anti-depressant drugs. Eventually I moved to London where I discovered forms of therapy - mainly Biodynamic Psychotherapy and Biosynthesis - that enabled me to come completely off the drugs within a few months, and I have never taken an anti-depressant again. At first I reacted by wanting everyone to experience the forms of therapy that had such a transformational impact on my life. I was passionately opposed to all forms of drug therapy and western medicine. Gradually I came to realise that at the time that I was prescribed the medication, I was not ready to face my feelings and take responsibility for my life. I was too emotionally damaged to do this, and I reckon that the medication gave me the space and time to find the courage I needed to take the next step. I came to realise that, much as I resented being prescribed the medication, it probably saved my life! Fortunately, the practitioners who worked with me did not criticise me. They never suggested that I stop taking the drugs or even that I needed to change. They accepted me the way I was, in ways that I had not experienced before. They were able to listen to me, and to enter into my perceptual world and meet me there. I felt seen, heard and respected, and this more than anything enabled me to find the courage and motivation to come off the medication and change the direction of my life permanently. I am deeply grateful for this. I believe that, regardless of who we are, what we know or think we know, and what we do, we can all benefit from suspending our theories and judgements, even if only temporarily, and making a genuine effort to listen, and especially to consider points of view that to date we have dismissed or considered undesirable, dysfunctional or untenable. As the Native American saying goes, to walk two miles in each other's moccasins, remembering of course, to take our own cherished moccasins off in order to do this.

Therapy has increased my self-awareness and ability to self-reflect enormously and this has enabled all my relationships in life to be stronger and deeper. I have a stronger connection to nature and...

Therapy has increased my self-awareness and ability to self-reflect enormously and this has enabled all my relationships in life to be stronger and deeper. I have a stronger connection to nature and have a deeper understanding of the preciousness of all life and the connection between all humans and the natural world.

I have done individual therapy and couples therapy with my partner. I have studied and read extensively, and I love the calm that comes from knowing myself better. I don’t oscillate as wildly as I...

I have done individual therapy and couples therapy with my partner. I have studied and read extensively, and I love the calm that comes from knowing myself better. I don’t oscillate as wildly as I used to, and I now mostly feel grounded, focused and on path. I’m more aware of my patterns and acknowledge the need for ongoing reflective practice. Finally, I am gentler with myself when I get it wrong, self-compassion being central to my daily practice.

It has made me more self aware, as well as more empathetic about the human condition and what people go through in life.

It has made me more self aware, as well as more empathetic about the human condition and what people go through in life.

Being a therapist and having many experiences of therapy has allowed me to deep dive into relating, conversations and experiences in the most authentic way. It has helped me be more human, vulnerable...

Being a therapist and having many experiences of therapy has allowed me to deep dive into relating, conversations and experiences in the most authentic way. It has helped me be more human, vulnerable and open hearted. I am reminded in this work of the beauty of just being present and the gift that is for my self and those around me.

learning from clients and their trauma histories

learning from clients and their trauma histories

Being overly attached to 'a better person' identity can be problematic as it can result in us overlooking aspects of ourselves that don't align with that identity. Therapy has helped me become more...

Being overly attached to 'a better person' identity can be problematic as it can result in us overlooking aspects of ourselves that don't align with that identity. Therapy has helped me become more aware of my blind spots, to develop the ability to hold myself accountable, to practice humility and to learn to accept feedback more graciously.

I feel it is imperative that all therapists do their own personal therapy. My own journey has helped me to really appreciate what's involved in the healing journey, to face the parts that scare me or...

I feel it is imperative that all therapists do their own personal therapy. My own journey has helped me to really appreciate what's involved in the healing journey, to face the parts that scare me or transform the shame, fear or anger. Its helped me to be more authentic, less reactive or defensive, be more accepting of myself and others, have appropriate boundaries, stay true to myself and be compassionate companion to myself and others.

It has enabled a much clearer understanding of both myself and those around me. I have become a much more tolerant and pragmatic person, able to communicate assertively but with appropriate empathy...

It has enabled a much clearer understanding of both myself and those around me. I have become a much more tolerant and pragmatic person, able to communicate assertively but with appropriate empathy and respect for others. It has been a lifelong adjustment, but I have no doubts that therapy is tremendously important in enabling us to establish who we are and who we would like to be.

I have felt privileged to support so many people who have experienced significant hardship and difficultly. I believe my professional journey has humbled me as a person and I truly am grateful and...

I have felt privileged to support so many people who have experienced significant hardship and difficultly. I believe my professional journey has humbled me as a person and I truly am grateful and privileged to be in a position to help others learn and grow as individuals.

Psychoanalysis, Jungian analysis, Hillmanian analysis, buddhist-oriented psychotherapy: these have all been extremely important in me finding my way. From a very idealistic young man to a much more...

Psychoanalysis, Jungian analysis, Hillmanian analysis, buddhist-oriented psychotherapy: these have all been extremely important in me finding my way. From a very idealistic young man to a much more grounded, reflective participant in life in all its facets - as a husband, father, psychotherapist, artist.

It drew me to become a psychotherapist counsellor. More self and other awareness, kindness and compassion.

It drew me to become a psychotherapist counsellor. More self and other awareness, kindness and compassion.

In so many ways. Yet not without a serious effort and a commitment to working on myself. All of what I am about to say is a work in progress and by no means am I able to do this all the time. It...

In so many ways. Yet not without a serious effort and a commitment to working on myself. All of what I am about to say is a work in progress and by no means am I able to do this all the time. It speaks to my best self when I am able to be that best self. I have changed dramatically since my first ever therapy session. I have learned to be aware of my thinking, my feelings, my nervous system's threat responses, my perceptions, my judgements, my narratives and commentaries. I have learned to differentiate between thoughts and feelings. I have learned to understand when I get triggered and what I need to calm myself down when I am. I have learned to self-regulate, to calm my nervous system down. and to take more responsibility for myself as an adult in the world. As a result I am less anxious and more able to tolerate distress, disappointment, upset, failure and stress. I have lived through major losses in my life and know in myself that I can still thrive and grow in resilience. I have learned to understand my limitations, to respect other people's limitations, to know how I impact relationships and see my part in my relationship patterns with family and friends. I have accepted the cards I have been dealt with in life and know how to manage my expectations. I have learned to function for myself and know when I am asking others to function for me. I have learned to understand how I function for others and what is not useful about that. I have learned to hold myself when no one else will or can. I know deep in myself that I can live through incredible pain and not be broken down by it but rather be broken open.

Well, what does 'better' mean? I think it is making me a fuller person as I too face my own challenges and limitations, which I have to address in order to continue.

Well, what does 'better' mean? I think it is making me a fuller person as I too face my own challenges and limitations, which I have to address in order to continue.

I have been in therapy for several years and I continue to explore and grow through supervision and other continuous learning opportunities. During this time, I have healed past trauma, gained a...

I have been in therapy for several years and I continue to explore and grow through supervision and other continuous learning opportunities. During this time, I have healed past trauma, gained a better understanding of myself, overcome fears and limitations, and changed some core beliefs and patterns that were weighing me down. However, I haven't resolved everything. There is still work to be done, but I now have a greater awareness of those parts of myself and have cultivated a softer, more gentle approach towards myself and my surroundings.

Having one's own personal therapy is a great leveller. It fosters humility and makes one more appreciative of the unique situations and heroic - and not so heroic - efforts of others. Therapy puts you...

Having one's own personal therapy is a great leveller. It fosters humility and makes one more appreciative of the unique situations and heroic - and not so heroic - efforts of others. Therapy puts you in touch with your own vulnerability as well as your strengths. Clients usually find it heartening that I seem to 'know', in a deep experiential sense, something of what it is like to be 'on the other side of the couch' - so to speak. Overall, therapy has made me more receptive of others and other points of view. It has broadened and deepened my understanding of life and interpersonal relations and enhanced my understanding of myself as a human being.

Learning to be present to my own process (through working in a Process Oriented way), and to respect it's message is a powerful tool for working with life's challenges. I don't waste much time in the...

Learning to be present to my own process (through working in a Process Oriented way), and to respect it's message is a powerful tool for working with life's challenges. I don't waste much time in the victim mode since learning how to work this way. This also means I can be available to understanding and not reacting to others in my life when they become destabilised by life events and act in ways that can create conflict. This way I can contribute to a different way of seeing that can help to navigate through seemingly overwhelming circumstances. Perhaps biggest of all wise learnings for me has been to accept every aspect of who I am, and to consciously work with the parts I dislike because they have important messages for how I can live my authentic self.

I think I am calmer and more grounded as a result of trying to 'practice what I preach'! Being a therapist has helped me remain connected to wider society and helps me remain empathic and...

I think I am calmer and more grounded as a result of trying to 'practice what I preach'! Being a therapist has helped me remain connected to wider society and helps me remain empathic and connected to the issues of many, varied people in our society. It really is a privileged position to do what we do.

I no longer judge people. Through my training, I am now always focused on understanding a person's primary, underlying emotions, and the socio-cultural environment pressures they are facing.

I no longer judge people. Through my training, I am now always focused on understanding a person's primary, underlying emotions, and the socio-cultural environment pressures they are facing.

Overall therapy has supported me to love myself more. Self-love is at the core of all the amazing help I have received from therapy and all of the other ongoing training, workshops, self development...

Overall therapy has supported me to love myself more. Self-love is at the core of all the amazing help I have received from therapy and all of the other ongoing training, workshops, self development courses, body and movement based methods I learn and experience from. The specific help over the years has included: increase in confidence; helpful new skills in relating; insights into issues and problems; learning from dreams and other mysterious experiences; support to follow what is right for myself; healing from past pain including trauma, shame, guilt, grief and loss; trusting my body; finding new attitudes to approach problems'; and accepting and loving all the parts of who I am (this is ongoing of course! Ha ha!)

I am now able to reconise when I am in a triggered state, to name it, to step back and support myself with compassion rather than attack the nearest person, who is usually someone I love dearly. In...

I am now able to reconise when I am in a triggered state, to name it, to step back and support myself with compassion rather than attack the nearest person, who is usually someone I love dearly. In many ways therapy has helped me recognise the underlying drivers for my own self-destructive behaviours; and through the incredibly healing nature of the therapeutic alliance, to gradually build a new way of being, based on a new reality of being safe and nurtured.

Therapy has made me a better person because it has given me knowledge and understanding of our patterning and our programming. Being a therapist requires ongoing professional development. I take this...

Therapy has made me a better person because it has given me knowledge and understanding of our patterning and our programming. Being a therapist requires ongoing professional development. I take this seriously, and it keeps me up to date not only with industry standards, but with new developments too. My knowledge is always up to date, and ready for more learning.

The biggest change has been healing early developmental and shock trauma when I was under 3 years. I developed more capacity and coherence in my felt system. This has enabled more confidence in my...

The biggest change has been healing early developmental and shock trauma when I was under 3 years. I developed more capacity and coherence in my felt system. This has enabled more confidence in my external life and an ability to move through inevitable challenges more easily.

Yes Therapy combined with my own spiritual practice . Life itself being the ultimate spiritual teacher.

Yes Therapy combined with my own spiritual practice . Life itself being the ultimate spiritual teacher.

Firstly, I don't return to destructive behaviours that threatened to ruin my life and deeply affect those around me. I am a much more content, reflective person and think of others and how they feel,...

Firstly, I don't return to destructive behaviours that threatened to ruin my life and deeply affect those around me. I am a much more content, reflective person and think of others and how they feel, balanced with my own needs.

I get to know myself better: my strengths and my weaknesses. Together we grow.

I get to know myself better: my strengths and my weaknesses. Together we grow.

It has allowed me to have more clarity about what is important to me as a person and how I want to live my life. By having more compassion for myself I have achieved a lovely work/life balance where I...

It has allowed me to have more clarity about what is important to me as a person and how I want to live my life. By having more compassion for myself I have achieved a lovely work/life balance where I can devote my time and energy to the people and activities that touch my heart and make it sing

I have loved my personal therapy journey. I have had many 'light-bulb moments' where I have discovered the reasons why I think, feel and behave the way I do. I have seen how gaining insight and...

I have loved my personal therapy journey. I have had many 'light-bulb moments' where I have discovered the reasons why I think, feel and behave the way I do. I have seen how gaining insight and understanding into my experience has helped me mature, grow and change. I feel richer, lighter, more compassionate towards myself and more settled because of my therapy journey. My relationships have improved and I feel easier within myself. I highly recommend it!

Yes- that is easy to answer. Being a counsellor requires me to do a great deal of self reflection and make sure my 'stuff' is not interfering with my work with clients. I have heard many sad and...

Yes- that is easy to answer. Being a counsellor requires me to do a great deal of self reflection and make sure my 'stuff' is not interfering with my work with clients. I have heard many sad and horrible stories of hurt, and maybe have lost my naivety about what can happen to and between people. But far more strong is the influence of the many stories of strength I have had the honour to witness, about human compassion, forgiveness, determination, love, recovery and enormous courage, which inspire me and motivate me to be the best counsellor I can be.

I have problems with the assumptions behind this question. What really is a better' person? We are who we are, and over time we change, sometimes more and sometimes less intentionally. Whilst therapy...

I have problems with the assumptions behind this question. What really is a better' person? We are who we are, and over time we change, sometimes more and sometimes less intentionally. Whilst therapy is one potential vehicle for intentional change, it doesn't necessarily lead to being a better' person. Hopefully a more self-aware person, however, who is able to take responsibility for their own actions and inactions. This I think is what it has done for me. I am more aware and accepting of positive as well as negative aspects within myself, and know that having both is quite normal. It has given me a greater appreciation of people's motivations for doing things, which aren't necessarily obvious or sensible to the people around them, and the complexities and many dilemmas involved in living. Seeing people's struggles has also made me a more empathic, compassionate, and caring person. Having had plenty of therapy myself I know from personal experience what it's like.

I have always enjoyed the way that therapy has opened my mind to broader human possibilities and freedoms. I feel that therapy is a sacred space where magic can and should happen.

I have always enjoyed the way that therapy has opened my mind to broader human possibilities and freedoms. I feel that therapy is a sacred space where magic can and should happen.

Absolutely. I am a great advocate for therapy because it has changed my life! The insights, support, clarity it has given me as I have had the opportunity to explore my challenges, concerns,...

Absolutely. I am a great advocate for therapy because it has changed my life! The insights, support, clarity it has given me as I have had the opportunity to explore my challenges, concerns, spirituality, hopes and dreams (literally!) has enabled me to know myself in ways that have allowed me to make different choices that have changed my life direction. It has increased my compassion, open-mindedness, and the quality of my relationships to mention just a few benefits!

More self and other awareness and compassion.

More self and other awareness and compassion.

I experienced profound change and growth through my own therapy, so know from a lived experience that therapy with the right practitioner can be life changing. My experience as a client has given...

I experienced profound change and growth through my own therapy, so know from a lived experience that therapy with the right practitioner can be life changing. My experience as a client has given me a real appreciation of the vulnerability and courage required to do the 'work' of therapy, as well as gratitude for the positive impact of the therapy on my sense of self and my life in general. Knowing that therapy 'works' allows me to stay with clients in their moments of deepest despair with enormous compassion, empathy and trust in the process.

developing better relationships and realities within my own life

developing better relationships and realities within my own life

I believe therapy is what brought me to the counselling profession, and got me through my young adult years when I was navigating relationship, moving away from my family, and starting my own family....

I believe therapy is what brought me to the counselling profession, and got me through my young adult years when I was navigating relationship, moving away from my family, and starting my own family. I would not have the empathy for, or acceptance of others without therapy.

Therapy has helped me accept myself more and more. It has also helped me become more aware of my habitual patterns of relating which I am more able to recognise and change. Recognising my uniqueness,...

Therapy has helped me accept myself more and more. It has also helped me become more aware of my habitual patterns of relating which I am more able to recognise and change. Recognising my uniqueness, my abilities, my limitations and dreams have all been part of therapy.

I think there is something quite powerful in the reflective surface that therapy offers us. When we feel safe and acknowledged with a therapist, we are in a position where we can speak more freely...

I think there is something quite powerful in the reflective surface that therapy offers us. When we feel safe and acknowledged with a therapist, we are in a position where we can speak more freely about things that have just been in our heads for a long time. My own journey with therapy - and I speak about this in a broad way as I see therapy having very broad possibilities - has made it possible for me to make better choices about how I spend my time, put my hopes for my life into action and improved my relationships with others. It has helped me to relax in stressful situations and to respond to others in more open-hearted ways.

In essence, it has given me a deeper insight into understanding myself and other people which has led me to have a healthier and kinder relationship with myself. This helps me have a better...

In essence, it has given me a deeper insight into understanding myself and other people which has led me to have a healthier and kinder relationship with myself. This helps me have a better relationship with others and the world around me and helps me navigate life's countless challenges. It has improved my quality of life in so many ways.

I try to be more mindful of others, more accepting, more patient with loved ones eg partner, friends and family and I aim to foster self-worth in my son.

I try to be more mindful of others, more accepting, more patient with loved ones eg partner, friends and family and I aim to foster self-worth in my son.

Therapy has allowed me to help more people by gaining a deeper understanding of a wide range of mood, personality and behavioural issues.

Therapy has allowed me to help more people by gaining a deeper understanding of a wide range of mood, personality and behavioural issues.

Good therapy requires training, supervision and knowledge, but above all, empathy and kindness. Deliberately developing my capacity for empathy and kindness has undoubtedly may me a better person.

Good therapy requires training, supervision and knowledge, but above all, empathy and kindness. Deliberately developing my capacity for empathy and kindness has undoubtedly may me a better person.

I love myself and others unconditionally - it doesn't get better than that for me.

I love myself and others unconditionally - it doesn't get better than that for me.

While I think I am a work in progress. I think both being a therapist and having my own therapy, I have personally benefited and like to believe I am a more informed, mature, kinder and wiser person...

While I think I am a work in progress. I think both being a therapist and having my own therapy, I have personally benefited and like to believe I am a more informed, mature, kinder and wiser person as a result. I believe in authenticity and connection. I strive to live a decent life with my motto being to serve others.

The discipline of what in counselling is called 'unconditional positive regard' is extremely personally beneficial. It refers to the rigorous non-judgement of whatever a client brings to the table,...

The discipline of what in counselling is called 'unconditional positive regard' is extremely personally beneficial. It refers to the rigorous non-judgement of whatever a client brings to the table, and meeting them where they are currently with a neutral, supportive understanding. Practicing that for many years produces a depth and breadth of understanding of the human experience that is invaluable in so many arenas. It's a very functional and constructive mindset. The second most beneficial thing has been learning the art of executive coaching, or business coaching. I was very fortunate to learn this from the original British developers of this specialty. The techniques are invaluable for getting lasting results both for counselling and executive clients, as well as for problem-solving in general.

My own therapy has led me to a more fulfilled life, one with laughter and passion - something I had no concept of in my first decades of being a woman.

My own therapy has led me to a more fulfilled life, one with laughter and passion - something I had no concept of in my first decades of being a woman.

Knowledge is power. It has helped me be more understanding less judgemental and more able to make sense of the world. Having a very investigative personality I like to know why people act the way that...

Knowledge is power. It has helped me be more understanding less judgemental and more able to make sense of the world. Having a very investigative personality I like to know why people act the way that they do. Having gone through some very challenging times myself I have appreciated the knowledge I have gained from the study of psychology and been able to utilise the many strategies and skills to help me live a more functional, rewarding and meaningful life.

It is a privilege to hear people stories and sharing this process has been inspiring . It has encouraged me to appreciate those around me and connect with values I hold as important and the culture...

It is a privilege to hear people stories and sharing this process has been inspiring . It has encouraged me to appreciate those around me and connect with values I hold as important and the culture and community that sustains me. It has reminded me to not make assumptions and be curious and surprised by people and allows me to examine power relationships and seek social justice.

It comes back to self and therapy has caused me to examine myself, as both an individual and a therapist. It is a collaborative ongoing process and one that teaches me tools, strategies and learnings...

It comes back to self and therapy has caused me to examine myself, as both an individual and a therapist. It is a collaborative ongoing process and one that teaches me tools, strategies and learnings constantly. I have learned self awareness, gaining insight, bought the unconscious into the conscious by way of identifying triggers and consequently, establishing a healthy pathway of response, Accessing feelings whilst not becoming overwhelmed or flooded has been another lesson, along with acquiring self-regulation skills. Being curious and nonjudgmental has been a wonderful lens through which I have come to understand not only myself, yet others.

It has not made me a better person. It has helped me accept myself as I am, and others as they are, in any given moment, and to cast aside the veil of judgement. Rather than help me feel better, it...

It has not made me a better person. It has helped me accept myself as I am, and others as they are, in any given moment, and to cast aside the veil of judgement. Rather than help me feel better, it has helped me become better at feeling - a more useful and achievable goal!

I understand myself better, however it is always an ongoing process. Self development is a life long journey. I have become more self-compassionate, thus this has facilitated my ability to offer...

I understand myself better, however it is always an ongoing process. Self development is a life long journey. I have become more self-compassionate, thus this has facilitated my ability to offer compassion to others. I am more able to set boundaries and speak up for myself. I have also developed more confidence to follow my dreams knowing that I can and do find ways of adapting to whatever comes my way.

It has, in the words of St Francis given me The serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. t

It has, in the words of St Francis given me The serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. t

I am more content, happy, relaxed and comfortable in my own skin. I also have a lot more compassion towards my own suffering and try in those moments to bring kindness to myself.

I am more content, happy, relaxed and comfortable in my own skin. I also have a lot more compassion towards my own suffering and try in those moments to bring kindness to myself.

Becoming a therapist, receiving counselling myself and attending regular supervision has definitely made me a better, and more grounded person, and a much better mum! For most of my life, I lived...

Becoming a therapist, receiving counselling myself and attending regular supervision has definitely made me a better, and more grounded person, and a much better mum! For most of my life, I lived with mental health struggles in silence, and it had a very big impact on my personal and professional life. Once I was able to acknowledge this, receive long-term therapy and take advantage of my love of studying and professional development, I knew that my experiences and learned skills could be used to help others experiencing similar struggles.

Therapy has helped me better understand and appreciate myself, but also be more accountable and genuine with myself in areas in which I still need to grow and learn.

Therapy has helped me better understand and appreciate myself, but also be more accountable and genuine with myself in areas in which I still need to grow and learn.

It has challenged me to examine my own life, past and present, how I affect others and how I can grow in maturity as a person.

It has challenged me to examine my own life, past and present, how I affect others and how I can grow in maturity as a person.

I think it's made me very open minded and non judgemental. Most people would say they can talk to me about anything and everything and feel understood. I think it has made me a better mum...

I think it's made me very open minded and non judgemental. Most people would say they can talk to me about anything and everything and feel understood. I think it has made me a better mum especially now working with teens and being a mum of a teen. It helps me see things from my kid's perspective and hold myself accountable. I know I am here to help my clients but actually maybe what they don't realise is how much they have helped me so much and I am so appreciative for that!

This is a BIG question! I could write for pages about how therapy and being a therapist has helped me, but if I had to narrow it right down to a few key things, it would be; 1. It helps me care for...

This is a BIG question! I could write for pages about how therapy and being a therapist has helped me, but if I had to narrow it right down to a few key things, it would be; 1. It helps me care for myself 2. It helps me be responsible for myself 3. It helps me be connected to others and the world 4. It helps me lead a rich, meaningful life

Working with children and being thanked for my work is the greatest pleasure in my life. Knowing that I have helped a child or family to live a better life, makes my life seem fulfilled. Over the...

Working with children and being thanked for my work is the greatest pleasure in my life. Knowing that I have helped a child or family to live a better life, makes my life seem fulfilled. Over the fifteen years that I have worked with children, I feel I have touched the hearts of children who have progressed to become mentally healthier adults.

I am more in tune with myself and have developed internal strengths to heal past wounds and make meaning of my life

I am more in tune with myself and have developed internal strengths to heal past wounds and make meaning of my life

That's a big question. If I was to sum it up though, I'd say therapy continues to bring the qualities of humility, gratitude and hope into my life.

That's a big question. If I was to sum it up though, I'd say therapy continues to bring the qualities of humility, gratitude and hope into my life.

Therapy has given me the awareness and communication skills to have a fulfilling relationship and be a self responsible leader in my community. It's hard to imagine who I would be today without the...

Therapy has given me the awareness and communication skills to have a fulfilling relationship and be a self responsible leader in my community. It's hard to imagine who I would be today without the self development that I have completed.

It is not my intent to become a better person through therapy but of course, each person I work with, and the relationship we create together, changes me in some way. I definitely have greater...

It is not my intent to become a better person through therapy but of course, each person I work with, and the relationship we create together, changes me in some way. I definitely have greater capacity for holding people in their struggles, in their emotions, for staying with whatever emerges, and for catching and acknowledging their successes. Outside work, my compassion, patience and commitment to self-care continue to grow and I've become a better mother, partner and friend.

Facilitating the process of therapy requires a willingness to look within (as a practitioner) at our own issues, core reactions, and past hurts. We have all experienced suffering in our lives and in...

Facilitating the process of therapy requires a willingness to look within (as a practitioner) at our own issues, core reactions, and past hurts. We have all experienced suffering in our lives and in order to do effective work with clients, we need to be able to take care of our inner needs. Witnessing the courage of my clients to engage in deep healing work inspires me to do my own!

It makes me more loving towards myself. I worry less and enjoy life's many imperfect moments more. Without the self-awareness therapy gives me, I wouldn't be the therapist I am today.

It makes me more loving towards myself. I worry less and enjoy life's many imperfect moments more. Without the self-awareness therapy gives me, I wouldn't be the therapist I am today.

Oh I love it. I cannot see me doing anything else now.

Oh I love it. I cannot see me doing anything else now.

I feel calmer, more connected and centered in myself.

I feel calmer, more connected and centered in myself.

I think it has made me a more reflective person. I hope I am less quick to judge and have a greater capacity for compassion; however these qualities are best judged by others.

I think it has made me a more reflective person. I hope I am less quick to judge and have a greater capacity for compassion; however these qualities are best judged by others.

Therapy has allowed me to develop a deeper understanding of human behavior and emotions, which I can apply to my personal life and relationships. My work also encourages self-reflection and...

Therapy has allowed me to develop a deeper understanding of human behavior and emotions, which I can apply to my personal life and relationships. My work also encourages self-reflection and self-awareness, which helps me maintain a healthy work-life balance and improve my own mental health. Overall, being a therapist allows me to continuously grow and learn, which ultimately benefits both myself and my clients.

My own personal therapy has given me a greater understanding of, and compassion for myself. It has increased my capacity to parent well, understand my children's needs, and also made me a more patient...

My own personal therapy has given me a greater understanding of, and compassion for myself. It has increased my capacity to parent well, understand my children's needs, and also made me a more patient and compassionate person on the whole. As I have worked through my own life challenges, it has also made me more emotionally available, and more understanding and accepting, of others in my life.

By having a safe environment for true self-reflection and a new way of looking at things, therapy is a place for personal growth that provides a new sense of calm and control.

By having a safe environment for true self-reflection and a new way of looking at things, therapy is a place for personal growth that provides a new sense of calm and control.

Therapy has made me a better person through building awareness of self and others. Psychotherapy has the following benefits and will help you to: Find resolution of the pervasive underlying causes...

Therapy has made me a better person through building awareness of self and others. Psychotherapy has the following benefits and will help you to: Find resolution of the pervasive underlying causes of your problems Heal from early childhood trauma and abuse Find freedom from self-destructive thoughts and behaviours Build a toolbox of coping and life skills Facilitate healthy life long changes Build a strong foundation for healthy relationships Increase self esteem, self worth and self confidence Become more intuitive and creative Reconnect with your true self Discover value, meaning and purpose in life Get in touch with your whole being: body, feelings, mind, sexuality and spirituality

I can't say enough about positive thinking and how, by maintaining a more positive outlook on life, you can cope better with stressful and anxious situations. This is how therapy made me a better...

I can't say enough about positive thinking and how, by maintaining a more positive outlook on life, you can cope better with stressful and anxious situations. This is how therapy made me a better person.

* Improved my connection with myself, including boundaries, purpose, healing my personal wounds and traumas * Improved my relationships, communication and connection with others and lots more.......

* Improved my connection with myself, including boundaries, purpose, healing my personal wounds and traumas * Improved my relationships, communication and connection with others and lots more.......

Therapy has made me a better person through teaching me how to openly observe to understand the people who I am with. I have learned to observe each person like a sunset, something spectacularly...

Therapy has made me a better person through teaching me how to openly observe to understand the people who I am with. I have learned to observe each person like a sunset, something spectacularly unique and ever changing, never to be repeated in the same way twice; rather than a maths problem to be analysed and solved.

It definitely has. For example my own therapy allowed me to recognise forgotten and abandoned parts of self, that were longing to be found and were raging in the present. Bringing my inner-child into...

It definitely has. For example my own therapy allowed me to recognise forgotten and abandoned parts of self, that were longing to be found and were raging in the present. Bringing my inner-child into present and embracing it made me feel alive and multiplied my joy of living. My therapy also allowed me to examine the ways I relate to people and my therapist provided a great scene for many scenarios to be explored and many patterns of thinking and interactions were brought into awareness in a safe place. It has greatly increased my capacity to empathise with others and be attuned to other people's emotional states which I believe, makes me a better person.

As I believe the mind uses the brain to create itself (per Dan Siegel, IPNB), and in order to know the mind I work with energy which all connects to my work with, and understanding of, compassion and...

As I believe the mind uses the brain to create itself (per Dan Siegel, IPNB), and in order to know the mind I work with energy which all connects to my work with, and understanding of, compassion and spirituality, I am therefore a more spiritual being which makes me a better person. I use mindsight' to the best of my ability and as “The human mind is a relational and embodied process that regulates the flow of energy and information” my belief in this definition of mind by Dr Dan Siegel enables me to monitor, measure, observe and modify my own mind as well as offer this understanding to any clients I work with, toward integration and hope, health, harmony and happiness.

As a therapist I have heard hundreds of stories. I've been shown different sides of human nature and the impact it has - both good and bad. I've seen people rise above adversity. It definitely has...

As a therapist I have heard hundreds of stories. I've been shown different sides of human nature and the impact it has - both good and bad. I've seen people rise above adversity. It definitely has helped me to have a better appreciation of differences and value of each individual.

I think I am still trying to be a better person. In this field one never stops learning. Therapists are human and have flaws like everyone else. I am constantly reminded of my own flaws when I meet...

I think I am still trying to be a better person. In this field one never stops learning. Therapists are human and have flaws like everyone else. I am constantly reminded of my own flaws when I meet other people struggling - we are all the same. Having said all of that though, I am far less judgemental than perhaps others - therapy gives me good insight into why people do what they do - most people are fundamentally good - they are trying to do the best they can. And of course I have good empathy which is great for my friends and family but can be taxing for me personally at times.

I don't view anyone as 'broken'. I can clearly see that there are parts of us that have been wounded, and that we act and react from these parts sometimes. The aim of our system is not to be terrible,...

I don't view anyone as 'broken'. I can clearly see that there are parts of us that have been wounded, and that we act and react from these parts sometimes. The aim of our system is not to be terrible, it is to keep from feeling the pain over and over again, so it works to protect us, in whatever way it has come up with. My aim is to find what the hurt parts want to say, and needs to share. Once this happens, the system can start to shift.

I regularly use the tools that I share with clients in my own inner world, especially when triggered or if I am feeling off-centered. They are incredibly powerful in assisting to access the deeper...

I regularly use the tools that I share with clients in my own inner world, especially when triggered or if I am feeling off-centered. They are incredibly powerful in assisting to access the deeper subconscious mind, which records all experiences, yet many of these memories cannot be accessed using the conscious mind. Once accessed, these can be acknowledged and with work, transformed into healthier thoughts, belief systems and behaviour patterns - as the past unwittingly influences the present until it is healed. Furthermore, the techniques provide a life raft when triggered - whether it be through distraction techniques [so you don't get stuck in the pain], or if you are in it and you can't get out, they enable a person to release the pain as this needs to move out of your field, so that higher frequencies [of thoughts and emotions] can take their place. This is the alchemy of psychotherapy, where we transform our pain into higher states of mind.

Therapy has given me so much more insight into myself and the experience of being a client.

Therapy has given me so much more insight into myself and the experience of being a client.

For me, working with people who go through all sorts of challenges has made me much more grateful, inspired, and non judgemental. We all have tough times, and no one is immune to stress. It helps to...

For me, working with people who go through all sorts of challenges has made me much more grateful, inspired, and non judgemental. We all have tough times, and no one is immune to stress. It helps to have someone objective, who can help you see what you can't see, and who is 100% on your side.

Yes! Therapy is essential for humans and super important for human therapists. It has helped me in my relationships with family, friends and most importantly, my children. Through therapy and a...

Yes! Therapy is essential for humans and super important for human therapists. It has helped me in my relationships with family, friends and most importantly, my children. Through therapy and a strong positive relationship with my therapist, I have been able to make big and consistent changes.

As a result of my own healing journey I have much more compassion and understanding for others, am less I-centred, I work with purpose and seldom feel exhausted or overwhelmed as I have much better...

As a result of my own healing journey I have much more compassion and understanding for others, am less I-centred, I work with purpose and seldom feel exhausted or overwhelmed as I have much better boundaries since undertaking psychotherapy. I have learned to really look after myself and make loving choices around how I live. I seldom react to people or events and am generally aware and connected with my thoughts and feelings. I feel so much more joy and purpose in life and appreciate all that the world around me offers - in the city, the country, the night sky and the ocean.

Self-reflection is an important part of practicing as a psychologist both in my work and in my personal life, and has helped me to always ensure I am being an effective practitioner whilst being...

Self-reflection is an important part of practicing as a psychologist both in my work and in my personal life, and has helped me to always ensure I am being an effective practitioner whilst being self-caring. There is also a lot to learn both professionally and personally from the people I work with.

Therapy has helped me to appreciate human existence and the importance of human connectivity. To be in a position where a person can feel liberated to express themselves in a non-judgemental...

Therapy has helped me to appreciate human existence and the importance of human connectivity. To be in a position where a person can feel liberated to express themselves in a non-judgemental therapeutic frame requires immense trust. I am honoured and humbled that people feel safe and secure to share their situations with me

Both receiving and providing therapy has helped my life. Receiving therapy has enabled me to identify blind spots and make connections I couldn't see on my own. Providing therapy to others made my...

Both receiving and providing therapy has helped my life. Receiving therapy has enabled me to identify blind spots and make connections I couldn't see on my own. Providing therapy to others made my life meaningful; when I see my clients improving their mental health, and achieving their desired goals, I feel part of their journey and success.

This is a HUGE question... For starters, it saved my life. Secondly, through therapy I have discovered myself, have come to embody my personhood, and have experienced so much inner peace and...

This is a HUGE question... For starters, it saved my life. Secondly, through therapy I have discovered myself, have come to embody my personhood, and have experienced so much inner peace and freedom.

I would like to think it has made me a better person. But maybe that is best left for others to judge! I do feel certain that therapy has helped me become a more self-compassionate, mindful and...

I would like to think it has made me a better person. But maybe that is best left for others to judge! I do feel certain that therapy has helped me become a more self-compassionate, mindful and resilient person. I'm frequently astounded by the way I handle ongoing challenges compared to how I did even just a year or so ago. I am very grateful for my own wonderful experiences of therapy which are ongoing.

Engaging in creative arts therapy has helped me to become a more reflective person, overcome obstacles, experience healing and increase insight to myself, those around me and how I respond to my...

Engaging in creative arts therapy has helped me to become a more reflective person, overcome obstacles, experience healing and increase insight to myself, those around me and how I respond to my community / environment.

The journey to becoming a therapist has made me more self reflective and self aware when it comes to life in general and helped me develop a clear vision and goal for my future to live a more holistic...

The journey to becoming a therapist has made me more self reflective and self aware when it comes to life in general and helped me develop a clear vision and goal for my future to live a more holistic and meaningful life.

Learning about psychology, counselling and psychotherapy has changed the way I see the world, and people in it. I am yet to meet a person who I would write off. Everyone can get help. I find, if we...

Learning about psychology, counselling and psychotherapy has changed the way I see the world, and people in it. I am yet to meet a person who I would write off. Everyone can get help. I find, if we raise enough awareness, there is always a reason behind a behaviour; a need seeking fulfilment and most often - somewhere in there - is a small child seeking validation, affirmation and attunement. We can find the why through exploration of the how, here and now. I have been a client in therapy, having had hundreds of hours personally in therapy. In addition, I've undertaken an academic masters and completed a published literature review referencing over 70 sources about trauma, culture and attachment theory. Additionally, I receive expert supervision and ongoing training each year.

Lots of reflective practice and a little help from my own therapists and supervisors as well as yoga training has led me to respond rather than react to my life circumstances. But it is always a work...

Lots of reflective practice and a little help from my own therapists and supervisors as well as yoga training has led me to respond rather than react to my life circumstances. But it is always a work in progress.

I have become and am continuing to grow more aware of the inner workings of my psyche. As I grow in self-awareness I am more aware of my body as a resource, thoughts, perceptions, belief structures,...

I have become and am continuing to grow more aware of the inner workings of my psyche. As I grow in self-awareness I am more aware of my body as a resource, thoughts, perceptions, belief structures, how life experiences have shaped me, how I interact with others and contribute to relationship dynamics, tension patterns in my body and much more. It has opened my perspectives on things vastly. I am more attuned to both my needs and those of others and what might be helpful in my interactions. Therapy has given me greater compassion as I develop in my understandings. I continue to grow in contact with my strength and love - which pervades us all, some of us are just more attuned to it than others.

It has given me a rich insight into my own family dynamics and made me acutely aware of my own core beliefs and values. It has given me a deep understanding of everyones unique qualities and taught me...

It has given me a rich insight into my own family dynamics and made me acutely aware of my own core beliefs and values. It has given me a deep understanding of everyones unique qualities and taught me to accept what is.

Therapy has offered me the opportunity to learn about humanity, compassion, strength, survival and hope. Each client teaches me through their stories of survival and vulnerability and I learn how to...

Therapy has offered me the opportunity to learn about humanity, compassion, strength, survival and hope. Each client teaches me through their stories of survival and vulnerability and I learn how to listen with the whole body self, receiving communication from my clients' nervous systems, tone of voice, physiology, emotional states, faces.

Therapy provides a rich opportunity for self reflection and growth. It is able to hold us during times of intense stress. I value the privilege I have to work alongside families and support them...

Therapy provides a rich opportunity for self reflection and growth. It is able to hold us during times of intense stress. I value the privilege I have to work alongside families and support them during challenging times.

My own personal therapy has made me a better person because the level of deep that I go with myself, is the level of deep that I can take my clients safely. It is a natural progression. I reflect...

My own personal therapy has made me a better person because the level of deep that I go with myself, is the level of deep that I can take my clients safely. It is a natural progression. I reflect every day and look at myself and my own reactions. I take my own soul journey seriously and have regular professional support and supervision and self-study. The soul journey is a life journey. You can choose to 'get off the train', but if you are called, you will return sooner than later and continue the journey.

It is an honour to be trusted with the personal information that the client shares with me, and this alone makes me want to do my utmost to help them to heal. The most satisfying feeling I get is when...

It is an honour to be trusted with the personal information that the client shares with me, and this alone makes me want to do my utmost to help them to heal. The most satisfying feeling I get is when a client no longer needs me - it's when I know I've done my best for them.

Therapy has made me a better person through greater self-awareness, emotional understanding and awareness and also resolution of past issues.

Therapy has made me a better person through greater self-awareness, emotional understanding and awareness and also resolution of past issues.

I have infinitely more understanding and compassion for the behaviours I see and hear about in people. Therapeutic work has shown me and allowed me to experience that we're all in the same boat....

I have infinitely more understanding and compassion for the behaviours I see and hear about in people. Therapeutic work has shown me and allowed me to experience that we're all in the same boat. People might look like they've got it all together, but everyone has pain. Everyone has hurt. Everyone has bad days where it's a struggle to get through, but they show up and do their best anyway. I have a lot of respect for that.

Engaging in my own therapy helps me gain personal insight and self-awareness, which is crucial for maintaining a healthy therapeutic relationship with my clients. Secondly, it allows me to process my...

Engaging in my own therapy helps me gain personal insight and self-awareness, which is crucial for maintaining a healthy therapeutic relationship with my clients. Secondly, it allows me to process my own emotions and experiences, preventing burnout and enhances my ability to empathise and support others. Lastly, personal therapy helps me continually refine my skills and deepen my understanding of therapeutic techniques and approaches.

As far as I'm concerned, therapy is the greatest gift I've ever given to myself and I have no doubt whatsoever, that I would not be the Woman I am today without it. The thing with therapy/analysis is...

As far as I'm concerned, therapy is the greatest gift I've ever given to myself and I have no doubt whatsoever, that I would not be the Woman I am today without it. The thing with therapy/analysis is that even when its over, it isn't. What an individual learns about themselves during the process of the work stays with them. The ability to view one's behaviour and attitudes in any given situation is a rare and worthwhile insight.

Overcoming poor self-esteem as well as fully returning to my body. Both allowed me to live the life I always dreamed of having: A functioning and loving family/ still having fun exploring new things...

Overcoming poor self-esteem as well as fully returning to my body. Both allowed me to live the life I always dreamed of having: A functioning and loving family/ still having fun exploring new things such as becoming an extra in film and advertisement, playing music and simply feeling alive and supporting others to feel alive too.

I enjoy the opportunity to attend therapy myself and reflect on my own growth, struggles and times of 'stuckness'. I find it's so valuable to have another person's perspective to help me check my own...

I enjoy the opportunity to attend therapy myself and reflect on my own growth, struggles and times of 'stuckness'. I find it's so valuable to have another person's perspective to help me check my own blindspots.

Therapy makes me a better person because I have more empathy and understanding of emotion and recognize that we are all quite vulnerable to change. It has allowed me to work through my stuff and to...

Therapy makes me a better person because I have more empathy and understanding of emotion and recognize that we are all quite vulnerable to change. It has allowed me to work through my stuff and to remember that nothing stays the same......

Being in therapy has supported me to understand what makes me tick! I can finally face those thoughts and feelings that I used to hide away from, and this has improved the relationships I have with...

Being in therapy has supported me to understand what makes me tick! I can finally face those thoughts and feelings that I used to hide away from, and this has improved the relationships I have with myself and my family and the people around me.

Therapy has made me a better person with improved self-awareness. I am more aware of my thoughts, feelings, and how I behave as a result. This increased self-awareness has helped me better understand...

Therapy has made me a better person with improved self-awareness. I am more aware of my thoughts, feelings, and how I behave as a result. This increased self-awareness has helped me better understand myself and my motivations, which has led to personal growth and positive change. I believe I have increased empathy for my clients as well as a more compassionate outlook on life. I also believe I have better coping mechanisms, particularly under stress. This enables me to pass these skills onto my clients. During my training and ongoing professional development, I have learned to communicate more effectively with others which leads to better relationships and a greater sense of connection with others. Therapy has also helped develop a more positive self-image and increase self-esteem. This leads to greater confidence and a more positive outlook on life. Overall, therapy has helped me become a better person by providing me with the tools and support needed to make positive changes in my life which can then benefit my clients.

I have learned a lot about courage, love and patience from my clients. I do 'practice what I preach' (at least sometimes).

I have learned a lot about courage, love and patience from my clients. I do 'practice what I preach' (at least sometimes).

I personally attend therapy when needed and it always helped me finding clarity when I doubted my own experience and perspectives. I personally seek a therapist who can challenge my ego and...

I personally attend therapy when needed and it always helped me finding clarity when I doubted my own experience and perspectives. I personally seek a therapist who can challenge my ego and perspectives. This has made me a more tolerant and patient person and most certainly more forgiving to myself.

My own personal therapy, mandatory through four years of study and ongoing supervision over the past 11 years, has given me the capacity to sit alongside deep anguish, despair and other intense and...

My own personal therapy, mandatory through four years of study and ongoing supervision over the past 11 years, has given me the capacity to sit alongside deep anguish, despair and other intense and often traumatic emotions and not be overwhelmed, judgmental or all-knowing. It has given me the capacity for insight and to develop trust in whatever unfolds in any session is an opportunity towards emotional and physical healing. This has certainly been my own personal experience.

It has helped me to develop resilience, self compassion and compassion toward others. I have developed a broader perspective on the complexities and strengths we have as humans.

It has helped me to develop resilience, self compassion and compassion toward others. I have developed a broader perspective on the complexities and strengths we have as humans.

Therapy can be a job, a career that one can do, and come home from, like any other job. It can also be a Way! My work as a therapist is simply one aspect of my path in this life. Everything I do in as...

Therapy can be a job, a career that one can do, and come home from, like any other job. It can also be a Way! My work as a therapist is simply one aspect of my path in this life. Everything I do in as a therapist is in accord with how I live my life. I don't feel there is much of a difference between how I work professionally these days and how I live my life in general. I am just as keen to hear someone's experiences at a party as I am in the therapy room. I am just as interested in the unknown when a client presents a difficulty I have not heard of before, as I am when I encounter a difficult situation in my own life. The absolute value I give to the selfhood of the other is now a constant in my life in therapy and elsewhere.

greater empathy, greater self understanding and a greater understanding of others. Also a more positive attitude

greater empathy, greater self understanding and a greater understanding of others. Also a more positive attitude

Therapy has opened my heart to more fully accept different parts of me and in turn others, with curiosity and without judgement. Therapy has enabled me to deeply listen to my body and trust my inner...

Therapy has opened my heart to more fully accept different parts of me and in turn others, with curiosity and without judgement. Therapy has enabled me to deeply listen to my body and trust my inner voice.

Over the last 24 years since my first therapy session, I have completely transformed myself and my life. I don't know if I would use the words, better person, but I can say that I am more in love...

Over the last 24 years since my first therapy session, I have completely transformed myself and my life. I don't know if I would use the words, better person, but I can say that I am more in love with my life and filled with more mindfulness, compassion and gratitude than I ever have been before. I have developed a deeper self-awareness and emotional intelligence. I have also developed a deeper sense of confidence, freedom from fear, self compassion and resilience. This has facilitated the journey that has led me to being on purpose in my life and facilitating the same support that to others that has so gracefully led me here today.

You won't ever find me ranting about someone's bad behaviour. I can usually think of plenty of compassionate explanations for understanding the way people are.

You won't ever find me ranting about someone's bad behaviour. I can usually think of plenty of compassionate explanations for understanding the way people are.

I have been a client, practice as a therapist, supervise other therapists and also train counsellors and therapists. Each of these experiences provides an opportunity for me to learn by reflecting...

I have been a client, practice as a therapist, supervise other therapists and also train counsellors and therapists. Each of these experiences provides an opportunity for me to learn by reflecting upon myself and life. These different lenses into therapy help me to I understand what it is like to have difficulties, and to also work with them over time towards improvement. I think it is important that any therapist you might wish to see has some insight into suffering, and not just from a text book. The research (e.g. Norcross) shows that most therapists deeply value their own therapy, as do I. This is the real seat and foundation of therapist learning more so than any training - as it has been for me. Importantly, therapy is not a one sided deal. It takes two. Therapists help their clients to change. Clients are also remarkable and resourceful people too. So clients can inspire their therapists too. It is a reciprocal process sometimes, something the text books don't often mention. It is however incumbent upon therapists to manage our selves so as not to adversely interfere with your progress.

Therapy has empowered me in my own healing journey and enriched my family relationships. It clarifies and keeps me on track of my values and goals when sneaky captialism and colonialisation makes me...

Therapy has empowered me in my own healing journey and enriched my family relationships. It clarifies and keeps me on track of my values and goals when sneaky captialism and colonialisation makes me feel bad about myself. I used go weekly or fortnightly for years, now I'm down to monthly/ad hoc.

To become a qualified psychotherapist it is mandatory that you also receive psychotherapy. In part, this is so you can understand the vulnerability that comes along with opening yourself up to another...

To become a qualified psychotherapist it is mandatory that you also receive psychotherapy. In part, this is so you can understand the vulnerability that comes along with opening yourself up to another person. I found this to be one of my most humbling experiences. To sit in front of another human and remove my mask or my shield and share some of the parts of me that are so deep and vulnerable and to experience the courage I needed to be able to do that. Those experiences have enabled me to understand and respect what my clients go through in order to share with me some aspects of their life or themselves that is very difficult and to do so without judgement and or criticism.

In every way. It's made me compassionate, empathetic, less judgemental, less viciously self critical, less shameful, more confident, happy with myself, a better partner and mother etc. etc. etc. It's...

In every way. It's made me compassionate, empathetic, less judgemental, less viciously self critical, less shameful, more confident, happy with myself, a better partner and mother etc. etc. etc. It's helped me find purpose, direction and meaning.

Therapy, especially with the Internal Family Systems (IFS) approach, has been a truly transformative experience. It's not just about my clients' growth; it has also profoundly impacted my journey....

Therapy, especially with the Internal Family Systems (IFS) approach, has been a truly transformative experience. It's not just about my clients' growth; it has also profoundly impacted my journey. It's a mutual process of learning and development that deepens my insight into human nature and the complexities of the human mind. Here's how therapy, and IFS in particular, has contributed to my personal growth: 1. **Heightened Empathy:** Collaborating with clients who have faced severe trauma, mood disorders, and life's various challenges has significantly expanded my capacity for empathy. Witnessing their struggles and achievements has deepened my understanding of the human experience and the resilience of the human spirit. 2. **Self-Exploration:** Guiding clients through their self-discovery journeys has also prompted me to engage in self-reflection. It serves as a reminder that personal growth is an ongoing process, and the valuable tools I share with my clients are equally beneficial for my self-improvement. 3. **Enhanced Communication:** IFS, with its focus on the communication of emotions and parts, has improved my therapeutic skills and enhanced my communication abilities in personal relationships. It fosters better listening, empathetic understanding, and constructive dialogue. 4. **Self-Compassion:** As I assist clients in developing self-compassion, I've also learned to extend this kindness and understanding towards myself. It's vital to maintaining emotional well-being and resilience in a demanding field like therapy. 5. **Holistic Understanding:** My immersion in IFS and other therapeutic modalities has provided me with a more holistic understanding of the human psyche and the body-mind connection. This knowledge has broadened my perspective on health and personal growth. 6. **Strengthened Resilience:** Witnessing the transformative power of IFS in clients' lives has reinforced my belief in the human capacity for change and healing. This has bolstered my resilience and determination to support clients through their own journeys. Ultimately, therapy, particularly through the lens of IFS, has been a deeply enriching journey. It's enhanced my effectiveness as a therapist and nurtured qualities like compassion, self-awareness, and empathy within me. This experience has broadened my horizons, professionally and personally, and it's an ongoing process of growth that aligns with each client's distinctive path.

I am a much happier person for having made a commitment to my own health and well being more than fifteen years ago.

I am a much happier person for having made a commitment to my own health and well being more than fifteen years ago.

I have learned a great deal about personal development as a therapist.

I have learned a great deal about personal development as a therapist.

I continue with personal psychotherapy and professional supervision which I have had for over 20 years. In this way I can say I practice what I preach and it helps me stay in touch with the core...

I continue with personal psychotherapy and professional supervision which I have had for over 20 years. In this way I can say I practice what I preach and it helps me stay in touch with the core benefits I am delivering to my clients. I think this is essential and comes back to the human spirit - tapping into the spirit in all of us and helping people find expression and actualisation of what's deeply important to them within their various living constraints. I used to love freedom and hate constraints and limits. Now I have more appreciation for the wrestle. I think it brings out our creativity and helps us discover ourselves and others. So I would add self-knowledge in there as well - the old adage - know thy self' - it's a good place to start.

Therapy has made me a better person because it has allowed me to embrace all parts of my self, including the parts that I learnt at an early age to suppress or disavow. It provided a safe place where...

Therapy has made me a better person because it has allowed me to embrace all parts of my self, including the parts that I learnt at an early age to suppress or disavow. It provided a safe place where I felt understood and supported, which in turn led me to want to explore the rationale behind the behaviours and relationships that I was choosing in my life, which invariably were not helpful in attaining the joy that was my birthright. Through a development of my understanding, I was able to further develop my self-reflective and relational capacities. In becoming more accepting of myself, I am able to empathise with others and to practice non-judgement, be a better listener, as well as provide support for others without losing myself in the process. I am able to ask for and accept support, and see self-care as being a necessity rather than an indulgence. As a young child, I learnt at an early age that approval from my parents through being a high achiever was paramount to my sense of well-being. Like many, I became a driven by perfectionism, which later in life, invariably led to frustration, because that perfection could not be achieved. Through therapy, I have come to accept and like who I am, warts and all, and no longer needing to seek validation of my self-worth from external sources, but from within. I am able to have more choice in my life. I am grateful for so much more, and as a result, can allow myself to experience a fuller range of emotions and feelings, and to see that as healthy. I am able to experience each day with whatever it brings, acknowledging the past without regrets, and looking forward to whatever may arise in the future, learning from each experience, whilst remaining true to myself and to my values and beliefs.

Yes I definitely feel and see the changes that have happened in my life. When I look back on my journey as a client, then student, and professional therapist I can see how I have developed as a human....

Yes I definitely feel and see the changes that have happened in my life. When I look back on my journey as a client, then student, and professional therapist I can see how I have developed as a human. I believe it has been a culmination of healing moments that have enabled me to be at this place in my life. I feel blessed to have met the therapists that I met that helped shape my choices and transformation. I realise now that life continues to be an amazing opportunity to learn and grow utilizing meditation, and body-mind psychotherapy to evolve as a better person.

I am aware of how my history effects me today. Having struggled with my own past, I have great empathy for people who are trying to do the same. This makes me a better counsellor as I really have a...

I am aware of how my history effects me today. Having struggled with my own past, I have great empathy for people who are trying to do the same. This makes me a better counsellor as I really have a sense of the great journey a person has undertaken just to walk through the door and sit with me

Therapy has brought a lot of my unconscious behaviour and thoughts to the conscious level; increasing my self awareness. With that increased level of self awareness comes more choice in my life to...

Therapy has brought a lot of my unconscious behaviour and thoughts to the conscious level; increasing my self awareness. With that increased level of self awareness comes more choice in my life to stop before automatically reacting and pause. With more choice comes the ability to act with more kindness and compassion towards myself and others. Therapy has also taught me that everyone, myself included, struggles with something in their life. That knowledge has given me a great level of comfort. and connection with my fellow humans.

Therapy for me has bee a great journey of self-discovery. Through it I have gained more self awareness and composure. I have experienced relief from issues such as anxiety and low self-esteem, and to...

Therapy for me has bee a great journey of self-discovery. Through it I have gained more self awareness and composure. I have experienced relief from issues such as anxiety and low self-esteem, and to have healing of past traumas. I have learned to be more self-reliant. More importantly it has been a journey of becoming more empowered and able to be more useful in the world. And still more importantly for me personally, it has given me the opportunity to find that the very different aspects or dynamics in my nature can co-exist productively. Overall, I think I am more present to myself and those I'm close to. I'm more realistic and flexible, and manage my practical affairs better. I handle stressful situations better than I used to. And going through therapy has made it possible for me to be a therapist to myself, and of course to have the great privilege of working closely with others with awareness and skill, to assist them where they are most troubled.

I think that we are all good people, its just that stuff gets in the way of our making our goodness and creativity felt in the world. I have managed to remove some of the obstacles, especially around...

I think that we are all good people, its just that stuff gets in the way of our making our goodness and creativity felt in the world. I have managed to remove some of the obstacles, especially around taking responsibility for myself and my needs. Somatic work particularly has helped me deepen self awareness and become better at self-regulation (looking after my own well-being), hopefully making me a better friend, partner and member of the community.

It has allowed me to grow and forgive.

It has allowed me to grow and forgive.

Having therapy or doing therapy??? I don't know that 'being a better person' is how I would describe my goals for therapy. Having therapy myself made me more true to myself, and less worried about...

Having therapy or doing therapy??? I don't know that 'being a better person' is how I would describe my goals for therapy. Having therapy myself made me more true to myself, and less worried about conforming to please other people. Therapy helped me through a difficult time in my life, and gave me tools to manage anxiety and prevent depression. I know I am stronger and more resilient than I might otherwise have been. It also means I know what clients go through when they begin to tell their troubles to a stranger. Doing therapy with clients has been a privilege that has made me a gentler person, because every client is unique and teaches me something new about humanity, broadening my understanding and deepening my empathy. You can never have too much understanding and empathy.

All the inner work that I have done over the years, has helped me to develop a greater willingness to experience anything that comes to meet me in life. It has also made me more aware of my own...

All the inner work that I have done over the years, has helped me to develop a greater willingness to experience anything that comes to meet me in life. It has also made me more aware of my own personal emotional trigger points. Having grown up in a family that had high expectations of me, I used to project onto my partners, that they also had such high expectations of me and that I was responsible for fulfilling those needs for them. This put me under a lot of pressure and led to over-responsibility. Together with an inability to express my own needs in relationship or to believe that I had any right to any needs, I created over time, a build up of resentment. I expressed my resentment by either becoming withdrawn, withholding, being grumpy or simply cancelling the relationship and moving on to a new one and repeating the same dynamics. Therapy has helped me to become more conscious and to change my ability to balance the need to take care of myself and the need to take care of others. It helped me to grow in love within my marriage and towards my children and not only to embrace my emotions and vulnerabilities but also to be more grounded in my Being.

I am a lot more aware of myself the good and not so good. I am more accepting of all of myself. I am more patient and kind to myself and others. I am able to accept difference without taking it...

I am a lot more aware of myself the good and not so good. I am more accepting of all of myself. I am more patient and kind to myself and others. I am able to accept difference without taking it personally. I am more comfortable with uncertainty and that sometimes somethings are un-resolvable and need just to be accepted as they are without completion. My relationships with my husband, children and friends are more mature and considered. My communication skills have improved and I am able to say clearly what I need and speak up for myself. Most importantly I am more discerning of my choices. What is right for me? What is wrong for me? What do I need right now? How will my wants and needs impact others? How do I manage that?

My own experience as a client in therapy has allowed me to bring out the best in me. It has given me a sense of self confidence and self-worth. I have found meaning and purpose through psychotherapy....

My own experience as a client in therapy has allowed me to bring out the best in me. It has given me a sense of self confidence and self-worth. I have found meaning and purpose through psychotherapy. It has made interpersonal relationships so much richer and meaningful. It has also enabled me to understand others in a more focused way and to listen before I speak so that I really understand the other persons point of view and then make suggestions based on this understanding. Therapy has also enabled me to be more spontaneous and present.

Therapy has been incredibly valuable in my personal growth. It has not only enhanced my self-understanding but also deepened my comprehension of others, enriching my relationships on a profound level.

Therapy has been incredibly valuable in my personal growth. It has not only enhanced my self-understanding but also deepened my comprehension of others, enriching my relationships on a profound level.

I am more resilient; I have fewer highs and lows and the peaks and troughs are no longer extreme; I can think my way through dilemmas, as well as feeling the feelings, and I don't need to rely on...

I am more resilient; I have fewer highs and lows and the peaks and troughs are no longer extreme; I can think my way through dilemmas, as well as feeling the feelings, and I don't need to rely on others for soothing and comfort (even though I sometimes choose to, but consciously so, not out of panic or overwhelm); I am okay to cry for as long as necessary and not to be afraid of my feelings; I am happy with my own company and with being alone, or just still. And I love having friends with whom I can share humour, affection and lightness of mood, or deep conversation as the need arises. I have learned to be more generous and more compassionate. And stronger.

I have grown so much personally and spiritually in my personal therapy journey over the years and know that what I am offering is essentially a therapy journey that has rich rewards for both therapist...

I have grown so much personally and spiritually in my personal therapy journey over the years and know that what I am offering is essentially a therapy journey that has rich rewards for both therapist and client. I feel so privileged to be able to accompany others on their journey and I am deeply moved to be able to do this. The journey is not always easy and I know that I am able to hold my clients through places in the journey that can become difficult and challenging. Ultimately I am honoured to call myself a therapist and counsellor and to have a sense of fulfilling a deep sense of purpose and destiny.

Has it? I feel amazingly lucky to have the trust of my clients and to be able to help people fall in love again in my office everyday. It also helps me see the impact of loving/ and unloving behaviour...

Has it? I feel amazingly lucky to have the trust of my clients and to be able to help people fall in love again in my office everyday. It also helps me see the impact of loving/ and unloving behaviour over time and that is a good impetus to me to want to repair breaches fast, show up in connection and to tell my wife and kids every day that I love them and I treasure them. Basically I think it's helped me stay more connected.

Personally as a recipient of therapy I have developed life skills. As a therapist, it is fulfilling to see people reach their goals and strive for health. The professional and personal...

Personally as a recipient of therapy I have developed life skills. As a therapist, it is fulfilling to see people reach their goals and strive for health. The professional and personal experiences I have with therapy has enabled me to access genuine empathy and become more approachable. It has taught me to always listen, because everyone has a story