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Ms Matty Silver
Relationship Therapist, Sexologist
Matty Silver Sex Therapist
Surry Hills, Sydney NSW 2010
In Person + Telehealth
Philosophy & Vision
I'm a Relationship Counsellor and Sex Therapist.
It's my experience that couples experiencing relationship difficulties often need help dealing with sexual issues as they often go hand in hand. Over the last decade I have combined skills in both areas to help couples and individuals move past sex challenges. and restore fun, intimacy and respect in their relationships.
Background
Originally from The Netherlands, I have lived in Australia for over 40 years. My cultural background has made me a very open minded and approachable person and my clients describe me as 'easy to talk to'.
Over the years I have worked in a range of professional fields, which has provided me with the ability to communicate and build rapport with individuals from various cultures. Furthermore, from living in different places around the globe, I have acquired a depth of life experiences which complement my counselling skills.
I'm an ASSERT NSW accredited relationship counsellor and sex therapist, and I am the author of SEX Down Under.
Services
Areas of My Practice
I can help you with:
For Males
Erectile Dysfunction or Impotence
Premature or Delayed Ejaculation
Performance Anxiety
Sexual problems after Illness
For Females
Loss of Desire for Sex
Difficulties Experiencing Orgasm
Painful Intercourse and Vaginismus
Menopause
For both Partners
Relationship Counselling
Mismatched Sex Drives
Lack of Sexual Enjoyment
Lack of Intimacy
Psycho Sexual Education
Other Issues
Sexuality in Later Life
Confusion about Sexual Orientation
Gender Identity problems
Disability and Sexuality
As real as these issues are, there is also a great deal of fear attached to them. With patience and experienced counselling, I can help you work through any of these areas successfully.
Areas of Interest
Accreditations
- Diploma of Counselling and Communication - 2007 - ACAP
- Graduate Diploma Sexual Health - 2008 - University of Sydney
- Master of Health Science (Sexual Health) - 2009 - University of Sydney
Modalities
ACT - CBT - Marriage and Family - Narrative Therapy - Solution Oriented
Therapy Approach
The counselling approach I provide is solution focused, caring and sensitive to your individual needs, combined with evidence based strategies such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). This therapy is based around helping you understand, manage and change your thoughts (cognitions) and actions (behaviour).
Professional Associations
- Australian Counselling Association
- Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists NSW
A conversation with Matty Silver
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After being a volunteer Life Line telephone counsellor for many years, I decided to start the ACAP counselling course. My first and second internship was with Impotence Australia - a telephone service in Surry Hills.
This started my interest in Sex Therapy and I decided to attain the Master of Health Science (Sexual Health) at the University of Sydney.
This started my career as a Sex Therapist and Relationship Counsellor. -
Coming from an open-minded society (The Netherlands) which view sex as a normal part of life, I realised that Australians view sex very differently to the way I did and it saddened me that there is such a taboo around sex.
I started writing articles for the on-line Fairfax papers and later on The Huffington Post. Based on the articles, I have written a book called SEX Down Under - Information, insights and sex education for grown ups. The book deals in short chapters, with many of the issues I encounter in my counselling room, with the aim to help the reader understand that most of these issues are commonly experienced and can be resolved. -
I like to break down and demystify some of the taboos and barriers around sex and encourage people to feel more comfortable talking about it.
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Most important with Sex Therapy is to take a very detailed sexual history, especially with males.
I find out out what their 'issue' is - when 'things' were good and when they changed.
When I see a couple, I again find out what the main issue is. I see them separately for a short confidential session - then they come back together again.
I use the solution focussed method which means giving advice and support. -
Most of my clients feel progress is made within weeks.
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The feed back I receive.
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