Strangely enough, the comment irritated me.

Question: Someone said to me the other day that they liked that I never get angry. Seems a fair enough thing to say, but strangely enough the comment irritated me. Is it possible that the reason I don't get angry is because I don't want to risk not being liked?

Answer: Irritation is an aspect of anger and the very fact that you were irritated can reassure you that you can and do feel angry at times. The next step is simply to inform the next person that says something that irritates you that you feel irritated when you hear that and see what happens. You may even discover that such authenticity increases your likeability rather than diminishes it.

Answer provided by Sharon Snir

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