I'd Like To Stop But I Don't Know How To Tell My Therapist Without Hurting His Feelings.

Question: I started therapy a year ago and resolved a number of issues. I'd like to stop but I don't know how to tell my therapist without hurting his feelings. He says he looks forward to our sessions, and I wouldn't be surprised if he tries to talk me into staying. I have the same difficulty telling my parents things that they wouldn't approve of. I'm 29!  Kylie

Answer (1) It sounds like your therapist may have lost sight of just why he's there. Though there's certainly nothing wrong with a therapist enjoying seeing a client, it could be that what started out to be treatment, has somehow wandered off course into the realm of a friendship. If you're fairly sure you've done enough work and are not avoiding issues, perhaps being firm and assertive with him about finishing up, would be good practice for being a bit more assertive with your parents.

Answer provided by David White, Psychotherapist

Answer (2) I find it difficult to answer a question about a relationship without interfering with that relationship, so my suggestion to you at this stage is that you tell your therapist exactly what you've told us - that you'd like to stop but don't know how to tell him without hurting his feelings, and that you wouldn't be surprised if he tries to talk you into staying. If your expectations about his reactions prove to be right, you may need to move on anyway - but I am very cautious about giving advice in this situation because I'm not in a position to tell what course of action would be of most benefit to you.

Answer provided by Donald Marmara, Psychotherapist