I Tried To End A 2 1/2 Year Relationship...

Question: I would like to know whether I am co-dependant. What are the symptoms? I tried to end a 2 1/2 year relationship but felt so isolated and lonely and at the same time thinking of who I could find to fill the gap. My partner felt the same so we resumed our relationship but I am wondering if I need to work on areas of my life. Someone said to me that I had to be happy by myself to be able to be happy in a relationship. I have never lived by myself. bonnietay4

Answer: Generally, co-dependence is characterised by persons who are dependent on someone or something outside themselves for their sense of worth. This leaves them very vulnerable to others' perceptions, as they depend on their "measure" of worth from an external source. The consequence is usually feelings of self doubt and not "measuring up". It is important to work on the most important relationship of all - the relationship with one's self - in order to find happiness and fulfillment in a relationship with someone else.

Answer provided by Glenys Yaffe