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Ms Elle Stube

Ms Elle Stube

Psychotherapist, Somatic Psychotherapist

Elle Stübe

Elle is an expert clinician in the exciting new psychotherapeutic paradigm that is changing the face of mental health practice worldwide. Bringing together contemporary psychological theory with the latest neurobiological insights into what it means to be human, Elle's transformational approach seeks to identify and resolve mental health issues at their origin. "Elle seems to have infinite kindness, patience and empathy. Her insight and reflections were literally life changing" - Jo, client


  • online to clients anywhere, NSW 2000 PHONE
  • in person in Bowral, NSW 2576 PHONE


  • Counselling, Psychotherapy, Couples Therapy, Family Therapy, Group Therapy, Coaching / Mentoring, Workshops / Courses, Professional Training, Clinical Supervision, Online Video Consultations 


    I work with a broad range of symptoms and human issues, including:

    * Trauma (childhood issues, abuse, neglect, sexual abuse, violence, accident, complex trauma, relational trauma, PTSD, vicarious trauma etc)
    * Parenting/family issues
    * Marriage/relationship/sexual issues
    * Adolescent issues
    * Grief and loss
    * Chronic illness & psychosomatic issues
    * Addiction and substance abuse
    * Eating disorders
    * Anxiety, dissociation & OCD
    * Depression
    * Existential/life purpose issues
    * Self development coaching

    Areas of Special Interest

  • Addiction, Adolescent Issues, Anxiety / Panic Attacks, Childhood Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Eating Disorders, Emotional Overwhelm, Family / Parenting, Grief / Bereavement, Intimacy Issues, Psychosomatic, Relationship Issues, Sexual Abuse, Suicidal Feelings, Trauma Recovery  
  • MODALITIES / Approach

    Attachment Theory, Developmental, Experiential, Inner Child, Interpersonal, Marriage and Family, Mindfulness, Person Centred, Psychodynamic, Self Psychology, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Somatic Psychotherapy, Trauma-Informed

    Drawing on more than thirty years of personal and professional development in Australia, Germany and the US, I bring a deeply humanistic approach to my work - which centres on the primacy of relationship in all aspects of human experience. My contemporary neuroscience informed paradigm emphasises the profound impact of early relational experience on adult mental and physical health; and elevates the therapeutic relationship to the single most important element in effective mental health treatment. A trained somatic psychotherapist, I have extensive experience identifying and treating all forms of trauma - in particular the often misunderstood and misdiagnosed symptoms of complex, developmental and relational trauma.


    • CIinical Diploma in Somatic Psychotherapy - 2007 - ACCSP
    • Graduate Diploma in Communications - 1999 - Charles Sturt University
    • Associate Diploma in Performing and Expressive Art - 1994 - UNSW
    • PACFA Reg. Clinical - 2011
    • ARCAP registered
    • Approved counsellor NSW Victims of Crime - 2020
    • Approved counsellor Blue Knot Foundation - 2010

    Professional Associations

    • Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia

    Quality Provision

    My services are strictly confidential. I practice according to the stringent ethical requirements of the professional association PACFA and am a Blue Knot Foundation-approved provider. Registered provider with BUPA, Police Health, Emergency Services Health, St Lukes Health & Phoenix Health. Approved Counsellor NSW Victims of Crime. I undertake ongoing personal and professional development, including regular clinical supervision, in line with international best practice.


    I am an Australian-based clinical somatic psychotherapist, coach and expert in the art and science of human connection. For over a decade, I have pioneered my cutting edge embodied relational psychotherapy and coaching to transform the lives of hundreds of adults, adolescents, couples and families. I have undertaken training and professional development with many of the world's leading experts in the field, including Dan Siegel, Stephen Porges, Allan Schore, Janina Fischer, Pat Ogden, Bessel van der Kolk, Bruce Perry, Stan Tatkin, Gabor Mate & Karl Heinz Brisch. I am a passionate advocate for the vital relational needs of humans and believe that quality human-to-human connection is the single most important need of our time.


    To find out how I can support you, book your FREE 15 MIN ZOOM CONSULT at www.ellestube.com

    Transport and Parking

    Ample parking available at my practice at Bowral, Southern Highlands of NSW.

    I offer online sessions to clients living anywhere nationally and internationally and to anyone vulnerable due to Covid and not wishing to attend in person.


    FREE 15 MIN ZOOM CONSULT: book at www.ellestube.com

    Please get in touch for current session fees.

    Payment Options

    Payments occur online by credit card.


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    10 Questions with Elle Stube

    • What led you to choose psychotherapy or counselling as a profession?

    • My enquiry into the human experience has been the central theme around which my life has revolved. It has resulted in a very rich journey, during which I have explored being human through many lenses.

      Prior to becoming a psychotherapist & coach, I trained in and worked as a hotelier; performing artist; a radio broadcaster; a freelance writer; and as a social change communications expert. I was fortunate to experience a plethora of jobs, titles, roles and professional development both in Australia and abroad.

      During that time, I was simultaneously engaged in an extensive personal process - exploring a wide range of modalities; and practicing Zen Buddhism and mindfulness in both Australia and the US.

      When I eventually encountered contemporary somatic psychotherapy, it was a light bulb moment - in which I finally felt I had found a way of understanding myself and others that made radical and profound sense.

      My formal training as a somatic psychotherapist was the culmination of three decades of self development. It brought together all that I had studied, learned and experienced during that time, under a single cohesive clinical paradigm at the cutting edge of international best practice.

      Rather than my 'choosing psychotherapy', it feels far more as though psychotherapy chose me.

    • Which philosophical approaches have influenced your professional/personal development?

    • The single most important philosophy in my work, is the cutting edge understanding that contrary to the medical approach to mental health, human beings experiencing suffering are not 'sick', or 'mentally ill'.

      Instead, a contemporary approach holds that 'mental health issues' are in fact a direct expression of that person's experience in life - the understandable result of the mental, physical and relational experiences that have informed that person's development.

      Where a medical approach to mental health asks "what is wrong with you?", a contemporary approach explores "what happened to you?"

      Applying this philosophy in therapy, means that rather than diagnosing or labelling the issues my clients struggle with, our work together seeks to understand the client in their entirety and at the deepest possible level.

      Contemporary psychotherapy understands that whilst 'mental health issues' can be scary, upsetting, challenging, destabilising, repetitive, dangerous and disruptive to us - they do not mean we are 'broken'. Instead, we understand that these painful states simply reveal the fundamental vulnerability of being human; and the degree to which we all need care, empathy, holding and understanding in order to heal, grow and thrive.

      I consider my work with clients both a serious commitment and a profound honour. Supporting them along their unique life path, to fulfil their human potential, is a privilege beyond words.

    • Which particular aspects of health or the human journey are you interested in?

    • My interest is in a wholistic understanding of the human experience, using the very latest contemporary clinical insights, psychological theories and neuro-scientific understanding of what it means to be human. Rather than reduce humans to their separate parts, my interest is in understanding how those parts are in fact all interconnected and interrelated. And further, how every single human being is having an entirely unique and specific subjective experience - an experience to be respected and at all times honoured.

      In so doing, my aim is always to provide the client with a new experience of wholeness - acknowledging, embracing and over time, integrating parts of them that they have felt were unhelpful, unaccessible, unconscious or downright unacceptable. In this way, I am interested in restoring people to the fullness of their human potential and to enjoy the full expression of their unique human experience.

      There is no doubt therefore that my area of specialty is in understanding and treating issues that have occurred in a person's early development. Issues that get in the way of achieving our human potential and full expression of our unique human experience.

      Research is clear, that our earliest experiences as infants and children, directly inform who will go on to become. In particular, our earliest relational experiences go on to powerfully influence our mental, physical and relational life. That is to say, that what happens to us in relationship with our caregivers and other influential childhood figures, will go on to dictate the quality of our adult life. A profound insight that tragically has yet to gain widespread understanding, yet underpins many of what are considered 'mental health issues'.

      In my experience, when we remain unconscious of the experiences that have formed us, our life can feel out of control - like it is happening to us and we are not resourced to deal with it. This can cause enormous suffering, overwhelm, constant crises, breakdowns, relationship issues, addiction, chronic health issues, disconnection, purposelessness, or meaninglessness. Over time, cycling through these painful and exhausting states can leave us at a loss as to why we are the way we are; or whether there is anything that we can do about it.

      We may try to cope by being busy, staying distracted, spending money, using drugs and alcohol, over working, constantly changing jobs, relationships, houses or otherwise remaining overstimulated. Alternatively, we may find ourselves descending into despair, depression, stuckness, numbness, helplessness and a loss of motivation. We may even oscillate between the two.

      I am passionate about supporting my clients to make sense of themselves and their experience, using the latest insights into human development - what our human needs are in various stages of development and what happens when those needs are not met. In beginning to understand themselves in new and compassionate ways, clients are then able to begin to integrate and resolve the issues that have long informed their struggles. The things that have remained below the surface of their awareness, yet powerfully determining their every day experience.

      Together, we pay attention to and explore their emotional, physical, relational, spiritual/existential experience. Noticing what is going on beneath the surface story. Paying attention to all aspects of themselves and building new self awareness, self understanding and self regulation.

      Over time, the client develops new levels of resilience, capacity, presence and groundedness on which, at last, they can experience a solid foundation on which they can continue to build the life they had always yearned for.
    • What method/s do you use?

    • 'Methods' is a term that does not sit comfortably with a contemporary psychotherapeutic approach - for the way it implies that therapy is a process of 'doing things to people'.

      Instead, contemporary psychotherapy is about 'building connection with people' - in order that their experience can be deeply understood and from there, true transformation can occur.

      Recent research shows that the single most important aspect of any therapy, is the quality of the relationship between the therapist and the client. The outcome of any mental health treatment is entirely dependent on the degree to which the client feels connected to the therapist.

      To that end, the therapeutic relationship lies at the centre of my work. Rather than work in a one directional approach like most mental health treatments, I use a 'two person psychological approach' in which the client and I work together to co-create the conditions in which healing and transformation are possible.

      Drawing on the very latest insights in neuroscience and psychological theory, I use a 'complex dynamic systems' approach that includes all aspects of a client's experience - mental, physical, relational and spiritual/existential.

      Where a client has already undertaken significant therapy, I also offer coaching processes that support the client to apply the therapeutic change to further transform their lives.
    • When do you think the client will start to feel that progress is being made?

    • Many clients feel some sense of relief in their very first therapy session with me.

      Often, they have struggled for a very long time; have felt 'stuck'; 'broken'; 'beyond repair'; or 'a lost cause' - so even a small shift in their experience can be profound and provide a much needed sense of hope.

      True and lasting change however, takes time. For that change to be undertaken safely and at depth, therapy can by necessity be a long, slow process. This is based on the contemporary understanding of how humans develop and thus, how change in humans takes place.

      My aim in the work is to provide the conditions in which change naturally occurs - not in forced superficial ways, but at the deepest organismic level. Clients experience this change in many different ways, but often describe it as feeling they are changing "from the inside out".

    • Do you ever have 'bad hair' days?

    • Of course. 'Bad hair days' are part of being human!
    • What do you think is the most significant problem we face, in the world today?

    • Disconnection.

      As humans we are wired for connection. Every aspect of our health and wellbeing depends on feeling connected to others and to our Self. Yet so much of modern life results in our being more and more disconnected from others and from our Selves.

      We now know that many mental and physical health issues have their roots in disconnection.

      I am a passionate advocate for the vital relational needs of humans and believe that quality human-to-human connection is the single most important need of our time.
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    Ms Elle Stube

    Elle Stube

    Psychotherapist, Somatic Psychotherapist

    ONLINE BY ZOOM & IN PERSON I As a trauma specialist with more than a decade's experience, I draw on the very latest clinical understanding and neuroscientific insights to identify and help you heal those aspects of your experience that cause you pain, frustration, despair or a sense of disconnection - from others and from yourself. I believe that quality human connection is the most important need of our time....

    • online to clients anywhere, in person in Bowral
    • Attachment Theory, Developmental, Experiential, Inner Child, Interpersonal, Marriage and Family, Mindfulness, Person Centred, Psychodynamic, Self Psychology, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Somatic Psychotherapy, Trauma-Informed