In the end he thought we were ganging up on him and he stopped going...

My partner decided to get some counselling a few months ago after we split up.  I left because he has an anger problem, which he denied up until recently.  I had nothing to do with his decision to see a counsellor, but was invited to join them after a few weeks.  I was happy to go because deep down I wanted the relationship to work and I believed that it probably would, if he could just figure out why he gets so angry so easily, or learn how to control it. 

We had 2 sessions with the three of us, but they didn't go very well. My partner was embarrassed by what I revealed when the counsellor asked me questions. In the end he thought we were ganging up on him, and he stopped going, but I continued on my own, as I felt the counsellor understood the situation pretty well. 

Maybe my partner has good reasons for not wanting to talk about his childhood, or maybe he's just not ready.  At least he tried.  We are back together and although things have improved I know life could be more fun if he was more relaxed about everything.  I try not to let it get to me but he is uptight most of the time and doesn't seem to realize it.  I have my doubts as to what will come of us, but I'm relieved that I can get help from a counsellor if I need to.  Helen