I believe the counsellor had no right to say this without ever having met me.

My wife abandoned what I considered a good marriage, but apparently she felt differently about it. Months later she told me she saw a counsellor beforehand who said to her that if she decided to stay, she should not count on things getting better. This upset me a lot because I believe the counsellor had no right to say this without ever having met me. Admittedly, I had no interest in seeing a counsellor when my wife suggested it, but I wasn't aware at the time that she was thinking of breaking up with me. In hindsight, I would have gone along.

Since then I have been to a different counsellor to talk things over and he agreed with me that the other counsellor may have influenced her unduly. Counsellors need to be very very careful when intervening in the lives of the people who come to them for advice. In my wife's case it was more like interfering and it is me and my family that has to live with the consequences. To some extent I feel betrayed but there is no point holding a grudge. Life goes on and we make the best of an unfortunate situation, even if it was avoidable. Tony